I've been around on the planet longer than many of you folks and I have seen the trend to liberalize all areas of our lives. I have been  a Christian for half of my life and I have become more and more disappointed with the liberalization; this means more than what is appropriate/inappropriate. It is more like, "from the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks. I am only addressing Christians and the liberalization of Christians. Those that are not Christians are accounted differently. I am NOT a prude or holier-than-thou; the Holy Spirit within me has made that quite apparent but I see a dangerous trend among those who "claim" to represent the God of all creation.

Let's form a picture in your mind of Jesus Christ on the cross before He expired. He had the opportunity to throw "F-bombs", curse those that were responsible for His demise, even curse His mother for His birth as Job did. However, not only did He refuse to do that, but asked the God over ALL creation to FORGIVE them because they didn't know what they were doing!

"But I am only using it for effect" you might say or "for emphasis". Let's go back to the beginning of the English language for a moment. Weren't there enough effective words at that time to make a point? Is it necessary to "trash" the language just because it HAS BECOME accepted to do it? I have lived with it (and used it myself), especially in the Navy, for many years and I have found that I limit my friends many times for the very reason I mentioned above; if the heart is speaking vulgarity, I don't need to be around them, or yield to the temptation to do the same. I will say it again, I am NOT a prude or holier-than-thou. I firmly believe that it does not enhance, but rather detract from the point being made. I want you to realize that this is just MY opinion and I am willing to miss the great friendship that might have been had I been willing to live with profuse expletives. I have learned to see the color of the heart that I witness to and befriend. Some individuals speak truth through expletives and are seeking and others show the selfish need for attention. I try to "feel" the difference and act appropriately

The easiest way to determine the heart I have found is to pose a question toward the end of a converstion that will elicit a reaction. When "F-bombs" and putdowns come my way, the distinction has been made. WWJD becomes a valid view of conversation AND life. Did He need to explicate His point with vulgar expletives or was the Greek and Aramaic language enough ? JMHO   Dan

I don't think it is a big deal at all. God is interested in a person's thoughts and intentions. He is not beholden to society's notions. And if you say you stepped in "poop" or "shit", it seems to me to be a lot more like legalism to fuss over which word one chooses to use. 

@eshunt - So, just as long as I do not utter words deemed by society (not the Bible) as "curse words", I have controlled my tongue, am not deceiving myself and am "religious"? Okay, got it. 

 Do you see something about what I wrote that makes you think I 'm going to think about this weak argument?  That is funny!

You do what you want. Right or wrong to God isn't mine to decide. @mtngirlsouth@xanga @LKJSlain@xanga 

@LKJSlain@xanga - Thank you.  

@LKJSlain@xanga - Actually, it does say Ephesians 4:29, “Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.” 

@Ellieserenity@xanga - But again, this is taken out of context. CORRUPT means something other than cussing in this instance. It's referring to how we speak about one another. An inspection of the verse in different translations makes that VERY obvious as it says, "but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs"... this is not referring to cussing. It's referring to how we treat one another and what we say. Actually, if you read the whole chapter, it becomes even more evident that this is what it's referring to.

Again, the bible's focus is on CURSING others, and calling them names.

@eshunt - @Ellieserenity@xanga - I wholeheartily agree. I have done my time cussing as well but, looking back it only appeared to show my ignorance, not emphasis. As a radio announcer for the military, I was given two days to stop it completely and I made it. This is not to show how good I am but to show how easily it can stop if necessary. That was 50 years ago and it almost never returned (only an occasional slip). I don't use dang or darn, but as an ex-farmer/rancher , horse, cow, dog poop or crap was common rather than dung(who uses dung anyway?)

Since it appears to be so popular to curse or cuss, you should have no problem using those words in a job interview, or before your congregation in a prayer or maybe the youth Sunday School class. Throw an "f"bomb now and then, they would appreciate it I'm sure. It has NOTHING to do with judgmentalness but everything to do with representing Jesus Christ.  Dan

@LKJSlain@xanga - It sounds like a language barrier when it comes to understanding these certain parts of the bible. In old slavonic, it's a completely different word, which sounds kind of like "dirtmouthery", something that is born of cursing someone or something, whether a creation of god or person. A swearing word can kill. It is generally accepted that the lips that praise the lord must not utter words that make demons happy. "

For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.” -Matthew 12 37

@LKJSlain@xanga - 
My initial comment is written to the author of the blog and to the community. I used a quote from the witness of Jesus and what is recorded of what he's said to the twelve tribes scattered among the nations. The quote I used was James 1:26 and it is generally regarding listening and doing. I think it is enough. Here is an expanded text of James 1:19-27 from James, a servant of God and of the Lord Jesus Christ, where it is recorded for us: 
19 My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, 20 for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. 21 Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you.
22 Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. 23 Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like a man who looks at his face in a mirror 24 and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. 25 But the man who looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues to do this, not forgetting what he has heard, but doing it—he will be blessed in what he does.
26 If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not keep a tight rein on his tongue, he deceives himself and his religion is worthless. 27 Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.

This is what I summarized, earlier before your entry into the thread when I said:
"Cursing is uncivilized and un-Christian.
Would Jesus say "Go and F*** no more?" I even feel convicted making this point. If anyone thinks he is religious without controlling his tongue, then his religion is useless and he deceives himself. – James 1:26
Allow the Spirit to guide the conscience.
Should I want to model my behaviors by the example of secular relative morals or on the absolute morals of my God?
This is a no-brainer!
Stop making a case for cursing and give this rest."

The argument from @mtngirlsouth@Xanga is this:
"I don't think it is a big deal at all. God is interested in a person's thoughts and intentions. He is not beholden to society's notions. And if you say you stepped in "poop" or "shit", it seems to me to be a lot more like legalism to fuss over which word one chooses to use.
[and then to me:] So, just as long as I do not utter words deemed by society (not the Bible) as "curse words", I have controlled my tongue, am not deceiving myself and am "religious"? Okay, got it." 

That argument is weak in that it 1) ignores what is recorded from James, the witness and servant of our Christ (God the Son), 2) it in no way acknowledges that cursing is considered profane by definition, and 3) fails to address that we are commanded to develop a conscience (summarized), and 4) I said we are to allow the Spirit to guide the conscience and model our behaviors on the absolute morals of my God and this too is ignored.

The argument from you, @LKJslain@Xanga is " I agree on Mtngirl's point. [lets remember she didn't address even one of my points with hers]
You are using that scripture sort of out of context. [I've added that and clearly I am sitting here thinking would I read James or argue with someone about context - there isn't any contextual issue here - I read James.] 
The bible doesn't say not to use certain words, it says not to CURSE people. Which, in the context is very different than "cursing/cussing" ... According to the bible, calling a brother (for instance) a "fool" would be MUCH more offensive to Christ's ears than saying "f***"... The f word is JUST a word. It is not a curse to anyone directly unless used that way. Does this mean we should "go around" using it? No. It actually makes me VERY upset when I see a group of christians sitting around talking about someone behind their back, or mocking someone, or a variety of OTHER things but then someone says something or EFFING other, and EVERYONE at the table's jaw drops and their tsk tsking... 
It seems to me, that it should actually be the OPPOSITE. As Christians, we are supposed to be un-offendable... but, at the same time, we are NOT supposed to be slandering/cursing our brothers, etc... Something is wrong in the thinking here. [I used the word cursinsing not curse and I provided a biblical quote that has the correct context about communication skills and I used the word correctly according to the way is is defined. all of your paragraph fails to change my mind about my two points thus far from my presentation.]
But Peter WAS a vulgar man, and he was also the man that Christ founded His church on. [Is not relevant. Peter's words are not being examined anyplace in thread before you add him and it is an example out of context. Peter didn't defend cusing either did he.]"  

You provided a failed argument after the previous failed argument. I used the term "weak" while in fact your argument is "failed"

So, young lawyer. Please leave this alone. A lawyer gets paid to defend those that do wrong. You are making statements to defend cursing and do it free of charge. No one was accused but me. You accused me of using scripture out of context and "failed." You've been mistaken and now twice made arguments that 1) wrong me first, and 2) changes the words and fail to acknowledge correctly used definitions and context. 

You've not harmed me. However, your haste and incorrect failed arguments are not normally accepted as inoffensive. You are offending. I am unharmed and not even annoyed. Stop and clean up the mess you made before you'd proceed here to prove to anyone that you have a valid argument. The truth is easy to see that you do not. You've twice stated failed arguments. You should leave this topic alone and you must withdraw your failed arguments given aginst me. I won that round and you should not have another chance.
 
If it is right to issue cursing, stand up in your Church today and announce your support for cursing in God's place. You'd not do that. Stop defending the failed arguement.
 

@LKJSlain@xanga - What I am saying, and I will say it once again a little differently is that God does not live in the church building; we are not called to go and visit God on Sunday at His home in the church. That is the defense you are trying to make and it falls short. I am saying that we represent God EVERYWHERE we go as we are called to be Christ's ambassadors in ALL the world, not just in the Church community.

Your argument is that it is NOT OK in the church to use the same words that are OK to use in the community and in essence you are saying that you ONLY represent God in the building but not in the community. You have been misled, my sister. By your defense alone, you are saying that those words are NOT holy enough before God but are holy enough before man? That is pretty weak, wouldn't you agree? Here is the progression. Words spoken are thoughts spoken, thoughts spoken are heart spoken, the Spirit of God resides in your heart. If cussing is not appropriate before God, what are you saying about the Holy Spirit in your heart?

That is exactly the purpose of me changing the verses into nowspeak above If they are OK in the community, then they should be OK for God to speak, right? Or is it more a matter of quantity? It would be OK with you if God used an occasional F--K in His Word, then you could use those words in the church and around other Christians and not have to guard your words. You are making a great effort to point the finger and judge others for their judgement, but you are ignoring and reducing the subject we are discussing. The author draws the distinction at least by using "occasional" and not in writing. He is making an attempt but your attempt is to point to others with a greater "sin".

God makes a great effort to supply all our needs and many wants in our entire life, not just in the church building because He loves us that much. He gives us every breath whether in church or out of church. He makes no distinction where we represent Him. He sent His son to the cross so that ALL sin is paid for; your cussing as well as there judgmentalness. Keep this passage of scripture in mind as you use your words in the community;

11 And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.

12 “Everything is permissible for me”—but not everything is beneficial. “Everything is permissible for me”—but I will not be mastered by anything.

I believe that one can be real without being vulgar.

Some said that when the Bible says to control our tongues God is referring to speaking in ways that are not loving or uplifting toward/about other people.

I think that we should control our tongues by both speaking words of life AND not cursing. If we are called to be holy, and being holy means "set apart", then why are we constantly changing our behavior to be more like the world, rather than more different from it? I can relate to others, understand and empathize, love them and choose not to judge without actually doing or saying the same things they do. Being real is important, but being Christlike and glorifying God in our words and actions, spoken or written, should be our primary goal.

Just my two cents.

@eshunt - I still miss your point entirely... so, I suppose I'll just leave it alone as you say haha. 

Perhaps it was because you got so lofty and screwy sounding at the end there that in all honesty, I really have no idea what you were saying. 

And I'm really not as young as you might think.