Thursday, 03 January 2013

  • 5 Reasons Why I'm Leaving Facebook

    I've made my first New Years resolution -- I'm leaving Facebook. I personally don't have anything against Facebook. Okay, that's not true. I complain about it all the time. Though it's been a great way to keep in touch with friends and family, the cons have far outweighed the pros. The following are five (of many) reasons why I'm shutting down my account...

    5) I'd like to write more.
    I'd like to post blogs more regularly, sharing deeper theological ideas, updating more about the family, etc. More substantial writing, I feel, is being hindered by the quick-thought status updates that permeate Facebook, whether I'm posting or reading them.

    I just finished writing a novel that's over 80,000 words. I'm currently in the editing phase, and it's a process that's been slowed down primarily by two things -- Christmas and Facebook. Christmas is over, but Facebook is still a looming troll. The only way I feel I can conquer this beast is to avoid it altogether.

    4) Facebook is a terrible method for channeling information.
    There was a point in time when I rationalized having social media accounts like Twitter and Facebook because they were the best ways to promote my music or other endeavors. That's not the case anymore. Facebook very much funnels the kind of information that appears on your wall. It is so controlled that it's useless for me to try and compete with it.

    For example, when I made a status that read, "I forgot how good the Braveheart soundtrack is," my page numbers indicated that it was seen by almost three times as many people as when I posted a reference to Micah 6:8. Even if Facebook was a little more even, it's still not a great method for promotion.

    3) I need to cure myself of Facebook Brain.
    I hate how much I think about Facebook. The first thing I do when I pick up my phone or sit down at my computer is check Facebook. It's a compulsion that boarders on addiction (how many of you are nodding and going, "Yup, me too!"). The first step to healing is admitting you have a problem, right? Hopefully healing is where I'm headed.

    In Philippians 4:8, we're commanded, "Whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about such things." I have a hard time doing that when Facebook is in the mix. I'm sure there are people who are able to use the social media and keep their thoughts and actions more disciplined. I'm not one of those people.

    2 ) The more possessions you own, the more your possessions own you.
    Facebook is a thing. It is a thing that you possess and maintain. In doing so, it robs you of an inordinate amount of time. For the average Facebook user, that's over fifteen hours per month. Studies also show that Facebook takes a toll on a person's mental health. There are a lot of reasons to believe it takes more than it gives, and the more it gives the more it takes.

    There's a lot that can't be controlled like being tagged in people's statuses, notes, or photos. I've been tagged in things I didn't want to be tagged in. Facebook doesn't always make it easy for you to remove such a tag either, sometimes requiring you to send a message to that person and tell them why you'd like to be un-tagged. I don't want to make a social case out of it, I just don't want to be tagged! The constant maintenance, it seems, has more control over me than I have over it.

    1 ) "Better is a dry morsel with quiet than a house full of feasting with strife." Proverbs 17:1
    Oh, the drama. And Facebook is full of it (you can take that however you please). Just like there are certain things you don't say or do in public, don't do it on Facebook either. Matthew 12:36 says that people will have to give an account for every word they use. That includes Facebook.

    In addition to personal drama and a general lack of social media etiquette, there's also the onslaught of memes and political arguments. Let's also not forget the never-ending stream of myths and urban legends. I'm sorry, but you're not going to win an iPad by "liking" this image, nor is anyone going to share a portion of their lottery winnings with you because you shared a photo, nor is Mark Zuckerberg donating $1 per "like" for a sick baby (the images for which rip my heart out, by the way).

    Facebook drama is so prevalent that the only way to avoid it is to not be on Facebook. That's where I'm headed. Sometime in the early part of January, my Facebook page will be permanently deleted. Like me, you've probably wondered what life was like before Facebook. Well I'm going back to the good-old days. That's right -- the "old days" of blogs and e-mail.

    Have you ever considered quitting Facebook?  How does Facebook impact your life?  From a spiritual perspective, how could Facebook be damaging?  What is your new years resolution?

Comments (15)

  • Soapie@xanga

    I'm really thankful for this post ! I couldn't agree with you more. I used to write much more frequently before when all my friends used xanga, but now since they've switched to FB,no one writes anymore. it too hinders my creativity because i spend more time looking at nonsense then reading substantial posts. i don't think i could quit altogether but i'm definitely going to limit my time on it this year so i can focus more on writing.


  • WhereRealLifeAndTheBibleMeet@xanga

    I agree and have, myself, made a point of doing other things rather than be on Facebook. I have a lot of shut in friends there so I can't just cut them off and family that live far away that it's nice to have the account for keeping up with them quickly. But I agree about the drama, the urban legends, and I also find all the "liked" photos and quotes to be taking over any real thoughts of late. I like to get to know people and enjoy reading blogs more than quick quips and sayings. So, I'm on here more than there. Good luck with shutting down your account and staying off facebook for good.

  • romic@xanga

    I notice how Facebook can destroy relationships. 

  • Gl82889@xanga

    It's easy to open yourself up but it's priority of doing so before God. I know God should be first.
    Which is why I'm considering deactivating mine. But I like to help people through facebook. Place motivational quotes, pictures, and music that may help people.
    You could keep facebook, just don't go on it as often. Sure it's easier to deactivate it, but you could just fight the temptation to go on it for the wrong reasons.

  • deniseinindy@xanga

    I got off facebook a few years ago, as it was just consuming me.  Actually I loved it, was addicted to it.  Very unhealthy.  The Lord has better things for me to do with my time.  

  • chronic_masticator@xanga

    "For example, when I made a status that read, "I forgot how good the Braveheart soundtrack is," my page numbers indicated that it was seen by almost three times as many people as when I posted a reference to Micah 6:8."

    Couldn't possibly be because maybe more people like the Braveheart soundtrack than someone spewing Scripture.  

  • HisDownAzzChick@xanga

    Ive quit Facebook alot of times but it sucks me back everytime.Facebook keeps me in contact with my family members across the states.My new years resulution was to only have one social site.

  • islandgypsygirl@xanga

    i like how facebook keeps me in contact with my friends & family all over the world. i can understand why you want to leave facebook, though. but overall, i guess it depends on the individual whether you want to get sucked in to the negativity or not. 

  • FattiesGonnaFat@xanga

    This was really long so I didn't read it but leaving a website because of a guy that died 2000 years ago is kind of a stretch, don't you think?

  • ridwanafandy@xanga

    I have permanently deleted my Facebook account on Christmas day. 

  • Lost__In_My_Mind@xanga

    I can definitely understand why you want to delete it. For me, all I had needed was a facebook break. Yes, it's still one of the first places I go when I get on the internet (but then, I also open Yahoo mail and Xanga at the same time), and sometimes it's a little depressing.. but in a way, it's humbling. I used to get so angry when someone else's life was going better than mine, and spitefully happy when someone was doing worse. But then I saw how much EVERYONE has ups and downs, because facebook can really give you an insight to someone's state of mind. And that made me realize that I can spend all my life being jealous or spiteful, or I can use facebook for what it's intended for; to see what my friends across the country are up to, to stay connected to old friends and family, to let new friends into my life, and to share new and exciting things. I love sharing pictures, and almost creating a timeline of my life without going too into detail. With xanga, because it's so personal, I find myself making different xangas again and again. But I've had this one facebook since 2009, and it's so cool to be able to look back and see where I've come from, especially with pictures.

    The problem is not with facebook, but with how much control we let it have over our lives and our own happiness.

  • sagwaskeeper@xanga

    I have permanently left facebook, and I am glad to see someone else who is willing to admit they have a problem with it. I realize that facebook can be a great tool for those who can handle using it and thinking about it only when necessary.


    Like you, I was addicted and it stalled other aspects of my life. What prevented me from deleting it were excuses such as keeping in touch with elementary school friends from other countries, family, and people that I generally don't see often. 
    I realized these were all false excuses after I deleted my account. These people are no less in my life now than they were when I saw their photos and status updates. People forget that facebook is not "real." There is often no social interaction despite that feeling of connectedness... it's fake, kind of like porn, I would say. 
    When I deleted my page, I did not know this. I know now because I simply do not miss not seeing those things. There is no feeling of emptiness or a feeling of less interaction... 
    I deleted my page simply based on a list of pros and cons I made. The cons outweighed the pros and I decided I would have to sacrifice the pros in order to save my life. 
  • Proud2B2003@xanga
    Facebook has more pros than cons to me. I have stopped playing Farmville (which took up most of my time on Facebook) and have spent more time playing games (a word search game and Words with Friends) that take more thought.

    I recently moved to a state where I know almost no one. So, Facebook has been able to keep me in contact with most of my friends and family. In fact, my 10 year high school reunion is currently being planned and I'm able to keep tabs because of Facebook.

    But I can see why people defriend each other or delete it completely.
  • lov3_iris@xanga

    I think a lot of people consider getting rid of their facebook (especially when they've had it for awhile) it becomes too much sometimes and with all the other social media outlets, no one really needs JUST facebook.... idk its personal choice and preference. 

  • Lewis1122@xanga

    Very good, I agree. I have noticed many people have left various Christian blogging sites to spend more time on FB, more for visiting and less for study. There is so many little tidbits posted that any type of true study is swollwed up and forgotten. Xanga is a good site so far, not a lot of people but those that I have met are a little more dedicated to the word.

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