Tuesday, 04 September 2012
We are all puppet masters from time to time, and then there are times when we are the puppets tied to the strings of others. We do in fact exert power over others that we can be unconscious of. The string that I can unconsciously pull with others is when I do something to them, intentionally or not, that brings about humiliation and pain. Anger and the desire for revenge, is the fruit of being a puppet master, that can spread to others as well. When people gossip about someone who has done them wrong, when others listen and react, then they to are controlled by the instigator of it all, even it if was not intentional.
I believe the reason forgiveness is so important is that it cuts the strings from both ends, freeing both parties from a relationship that leads to ever deeper wounds if allowed to go too far. I get hurt and am controlled by the one who hurt me. So I hurt back and am in control because of his or her response. The power is moved from one another, an endless cycle of suffering and pain that is played out not only on an individual level but culturally as well. From my own painful experience, grace is needed to forgive, to let go, and in doing that to discover a deep inner healing and freedom.
Pulling the stringsI believe as a species we have gown weary,
the endless cycles of hatred and pain is death dealing,
to ourselves as well as others,
being a puppet master is hell on earth,
for the one pulling the strings
and the one dancing.
Sad to say,
the dancing will never end,
until our weariness
turns to a fire
for the logic behind this hideous dance,
the getting back
has a hold so strong
that it will relax only in death.
Have you ever been in a place where it felt like someone else was pulling your strings? Have you ever pulled the strings of someone else? How do you free yourself from these relationships? What role has forgiveness played in these situations?