Wednesday, 27 June 2012
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Effect, Importance and Influence
It is hard to understand how important we each are to each other in our different families, neighborhoods, countries, as well as in our different belief systems. The effect we have on one another is often underrated, and I believe can lead to a great deal of suffering, as well as fragmentation, both in our lives as well as in the lives of others that we meet along the way.
I carry memories that go back to the time I was two years old, and I think a couple that were before. They stick because they played a big role in my life that make me the man I am today. Some of the influences were good; others, well lets say I am still struggling with their after-effect. Though I suppose if I continue to try to work with them, it is all for the good.
I seem to need some kind of inner struggle to actually be conscious of what I am doing -- inner conflict leads to choices, important ones in how I am to relate to the world outside of my subjective inner universe. It is amazing when actually going over these past memories, how common they are, everyday, yet they impressed themselves on my memory and from time to time force their way into my conscious mind. So I try to pay attention to them. Healing, when it comes, may be shrouded in mystery, yet some choice still has to be made to at least start the journey towards integration of the inner self.
Little things
A smile or a growl, a small kindness or a not so gentle rebuff,
a sneer or an encouragement are seeds that take root,
grow and lead to greater expansion or to an inner constriction,
we are all healers, as well as those who wound,
when we learn that we are in fact wounded healers,
then our journey can begin, and all we meet
become brothers and sisters on the way.
Who has had an influence on you? Who do you influence? Do you ever stop to think about the effect you have on other people?
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It's scary to think about what effect I may have on others. I'm still trying to influence my children, and they are in their 30's. That kind of influence, or feelings, never goes away. People say, "Well, now you've got your baby for 18 years. What kind of sick joke is that? That you stop caring, or being affected by their broken hearts, their jobs, their attitudes? As of late, I feel guilt for having less influence within groups at church. What stops me from doing this? My mother was an introvert, so much so that when she'd walk by the neighbor lady across the street she'd say nothing. And then tell me the other woman said nothing, so why should she? My father was a rageholic who controlled by fear and physical abuse, hence, I married my first husband with those traits, yet never told a soul. Too ashamed. I think our parents have tremendous influence on us, and it's up to us to deal with it, good or bad, so that we can implant positive actions and reactions in our own children, and, in our own community, beit political or spiritual.Another factor that took me out of the picture for a while was when my Baptist pastor told me to find another church after someone told him who I'd be voting for in a presidential race. I think pastors should guide us spiritually, prayerfully, to help us find our own way, but not beat us to death when a non church issue is present.