Tuesday, 26 June 2012
Kissing is something that couples have struggled with a great number of times. Maybe two young people would do it and then feel it's wrong, but have it be too late to change it. Or maybe the woman in the relationship sort of expected it -- she was tired of waiting around for the man to make the move, so she broke it off altogether.
Kissing prematurely is wrong to some, but very "healthy" to others. Kissing, from what I've understood based on my own personal encounters with people, is views as something as "innocent" as holding hands or hugging. I've talked before about how physical attachments of any kind aren't pleasing to God (1 Corinthians 7:1-2). But, that might not be enough for some.
Perhaps you're able to kiss and hug and still remain sure of your purity. But thinking that you're remaining pure isn't the same as really remaining pure. Even if you really, really enjoy kissing and holding your courtship partner's hand, it's really important to understand that physical ties and physical contact altogether (1 Corinthians 7:1) isn't permitted outside the marriage commitment.
Kissing is a seal of marriage. Two people kiss on their wedding day to symbolize the bond of marriage. Do you really want to give up that seal at the front door?
Kissing also requires commitment, real commitment. As does any form of touching in a romantic relationship. You can't just give it away because you think the young man you're with expects it of you. You can't give it away because you're 99.9% sure that you'll marry him one day. You're supposed to save that for marriage specifically, not the few months before your wedding day.
Emotional attachment is one thing, but physical attachment is easier to fall into. The fantasy of it can distract you from the reality that God wants you to have boundaries. Never forget, the more you save for marriage, the more special things you'll have to share with your spouse.
How important do you think kissing is in a relationship? Do you think it's something that is supposed to be saved for marriage?