Deuteronomy 6:6-9 says, "These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the door frames of your houses and on your gates."
Following what's written in this scripture creates a happy life for both children and parents. I don't want other little children to have excessive fear towards their father because it is not a healthy relationship within a home -- especially a home of Christians.
From the first time I was aware of what was going on around me, all I thought about my father was that he was the authoritarian leader of the house. I've feared him much up to now, and I don't feel it is good. During the times before we were Born Again Christians, he disciplined us in a shameful way. At some points, it brought good to us, but what is bad about it is, all of us, eight children, grew up distant to him. I can't remember moments when my father and I talked in a casual way. I hadn't asked him for an allowance or even felt comfort when he was around. I feared him much even up to now, a result of what he did in the past.
No doubt that he is a hard-working father, but what we don't like about him is he is so disciplinarian, unpredictable, and demanding. But when he became Christian in 2005, a few good changes took place. Thank God! He is truly a healer. But there are still few negative behaviors waiting to be washed out through prayers.
Today is Father's Day. It will be difficult on my part to greet my father because we aren't close and I am not vocal. I hope I could be. I am working on closeness between us, although I know it is not that easy. I believe in the power of prayers, as Luke 1:37 says, "For God nothing is impossible."
So when I celebrated my last birthday, I woke up at dawn and went to our Church Center to ask for nothing but for a forgiving heart towards my father. He had not hurt me directly, but I feel there is a broken relationship between us. I also prayed for a healed relationship during the Women's Encounter when I was out of the country. I even plan to move out of the house because sometimes I feel like distance helps in recuperation.
But even my father is not perfect. Even though we have this kind of broken relationship, I thank God Jesus for giving him to me because without him, I would not be like I am right now -- successful in my field because I was trained by a disciplinarian father.
May he finds happiness in us, his successful offspring, and may he be closer to God Jesus, the One who can truly change life on a brighter side so he will be a father loved not feared by us. I bravely say to Papa,"Happy Father's Day, Papa!"Do you have a strained relationship with your father? How difficult is it to celebrate a day like Father's Day when there is distance in the relationship? How can those who have distant relationships with their fathers show their appreciation for their fathers on Father's Day?