Thursday, 19 April 2012
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BDSM: Is It a Sin?
[This is reposted as part of our Best-Of Revelife Week. It was originally posted on December 11, 2009.]
I would like to hear your thoughts on BDSM.
BDSM is a compound acronym derived from the terms bondage and discipline (B&D, B/D, or BD), dominance and submission (D&s, D/s, or Ds), sadism and masochism (S&M, S/M, or SM).
What do you think about BDSM? Is there something mentioned in the Bible that tells us whether or not it is sinful? What determines what sexual practices are sinful, both in and out of wedlock?
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I have no interest in BDSM, but I don't think there is anything about it in the bible. If you are married then I don't think anything should be off limits. Out of wedlock all sex is sinful.
It seems to me that the concept of BDSM hardly harmonizes with what we are taught in Scripture.
Ephesians 5:25-30
"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ loved the church and handed himself over for her to SANCTIFY her, CLEANSING her by the bath of water with the word, that HE might present himself to the church in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that SHE might be HOLY and without BLEMISH.
So also husbands should LOVE their wives as THEIR OWN BODIES. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one hates his own flesh but rather NOURISHES and CHERISHES it, even as Christ does the church, because WE are members of HIS BODY." (Emphasis added is my own)
The idea of chaining/tying up, beating, whipping, etc. my wife or letting her do the same to me seems totally against this. Even if I "loved" my own flesh in such a manner, and even if my wife "loved" her flesh similarly, Christ does not love the Church like this; rather, BDSM sounds to me like the way the WORLD loves the CHURCH, since this is the very same exact way the WORLD loved CHRIST. He was put in manacles, whipped, scourged, forced into submission, all for the pleasure of the world.
So, my thoughts on BDSM. Goodnight.
If it is a matter of simply wanting to "test the limits" of your
physical capacity run a marathon, participate in a triathlon. If it's
mental and emotional pain you're seeking, spend some time with the
people living in the slums and ghettos of India or another impoverished country.
There is so much pain and suffering in this world that we do not need to seek it out unless it is for a greater, and outward, cause.
BDSM often relies heavily on humiliation, and that is not the correct way to view another person. You should not humiliate other people. And you should not let yourself be humiliated by other people. When you think about each person as the equally and deeply loved child of God, I think that should become apparent.
That should take care of sadism and any forms of domination/bondage that rely on humiliation as the point. Otherwise, domination often happens in sex anyway (where someone has the lead or something like that) and I don't see anything inherently wrong with bondage. (Sadism is obviously wrong if the other person dislikes the pain you are taking pleasure in.)
The only grey area is the masochism, people who experience pain as pleasure. Something in me makes me think this is a culturally created phenomenon, but I might be wrong about that. I think masochism could be a weird biochemical anomaly that isn't inherently wrong. It should never lead to any permament bodily harm, however, as our bodies are temples that should not be desecrated in any serious way.
Christian philosophy is pretty sadomasochistic in nature. There is a lot of rhetoric and allegory about fearing the one you love and suffering for compassion. It's not surprising that BDSM culture is a mishmash of medieval and Victorian and Judeo-Christian themes.
@Ancient_Scribe@xanga - Well stated!