I saw on Facebook a link to a Huffington Post article I chose not to read because I knew it would rile me up. The gist of it was that Arizona wants to make it so you have to prove that you use birth control pills for other medical reasons -- besides pregnancy prevention -- before your employer/insurance must pay for it. I also have seen post after post here on Xanga about the evils of birth control and how free birth control equals more promiscuity.
It just baffles me. I have even tried reasoning with some of these people who adamantly believe that birth control of all kinds in all situations is wrong and against God and is immoral and unethical and condemn all those who use it.
All politics aside -- why is it anyone's business? Not only that, but why do we assume it is primarily (or only) single people who use birth control methods? To those who say "my birth control is abstinence," you're wrong. Abstinence is not really a method of birth control; it's a lifestyle choice not to have sex. And a good one, don't get me wrong. I am not against that in any way. But it doesn't apply to all people in all situations.
Here I am, a married mom of two. My husband is in the military and is often gone, so I am often the sole care provider for my two children under 5 years-old -- especially since, being in the military, we have had to move away from all family. I get chronic, debilitating migraines. I cannot function and take care of myself much less my children when those migraines strike, so I have recently been put on Topamax. Topamax is known to cause birth defects. So should my husband and I not give a damn, and just get it on and procreate -- as some have recently told me is the sole reason why God created sex? Should I let my medication harm an unborn baby because I must take it in order to care for my current children? Should I potentially harm my marriage by making it a sexless one, for heaven knows how long while I am on this medication?
Or, should we use birth control? This, to me, seems like the most reasonable, most ethical, and, yes, most moral choice.
Birth control, whatever the method -- not including abortion which is not
birth control -- even when used solely as pregnancy prevention can have it's place. I am over the dogmatic piety that is going around here and around politics right now. The very idea that people would throw God into this and in the same breath act so nasty and so unforgiving and so callous -- it doesn't spread the word or the love of God at all.
So lets take it there, you want to go there, go to religion? I can't help but think of the hymn "They'll know we are Christians by our love." Not by our rules and bylaws. Not by our finger-pointing and stone-throwing. I also remember a movie I once saw that profoundly impacted the way I thought. It was about a church that was run by a religious man who was all about rules, all about damnation. By the end of the movie there was a quote that went something like, "God's love shouldn't be about who we can exclude. Rather, it should be about who we can include."
This can be applied to many, many issues in the front pages right now in politics. And it is something I have applied to my life -- and I'm much happier for it. I'm pretty sure God sent Jesus to try and include
as many of us sinners as possible into his kingdom. If it was about exclusion
, then his crucifixion would not have been necessary. Please think about that.Do you agree that there can be a place in the Christian life for birth control? Under what circumstances do you think it would be permissible? Has the birth control debate gotten so nasty that Christians are becoming more exclusive rather than inclusive? How can we appropriately discuss divisive issues such as birth control in a way that is still respectful and loving?