Wednesday, 14 March 2012
A lot of the time we avoid conversations or situations that would be awkward. But I think awkwardness can be a really good teaching tool, and can make us stronger and wiser -- kind of like being put through fire.
A couple months ago I requested "closure" from my boyfriend, and at first he said something along the lines of "but it will be awkward." Pushing through awkwardness, though, can teach you courage. So I told him, and we did talk it out. I felt so much better afterward. Again yesterday we walked to class together as we had classes in the same building at the same time. It was really awkward, but I pushed through it and made small talk, and I know I am a better person for it.
Why do we avoid awkwardness besides the desire to avoid discomfort? What is good about avoiding awkward situations? A lot of things will be missed if we don't ever have enough courage to say something or do something just because it will be uncomfortable. I think that really speaks to how we Americans love comfort so much. It is not wrong necessarily to want to be comfortable, but when we forgo necessary conversations or actions because of it, I think it is a problem.
Especially when you are Christian and you never hold any of your Christian friends accountable because you don't want the necessary "come-to-Jesus" talk and the inevitable discomfort. Or when you never tell anyone about Jesus because you want to avoid awkwardness. Or...fill in the blank.
Do you avoid certain people or conversations because you're afraid it will be awkward? What do you think would happen if you pushed through the awkwardness?