Wednesday, 14 March 2012
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Awkwardness Is A Good Thing
A lot of the time we avoid conversations or situations that would be awkward. But I think awkwardness can be a really good teaching tool, and can make us stronger and wiser -- kind of like being put through fire.A couple months ago I requested "closure" from my boyfriend, and at first he said something along the lines of "but it will be awkward." Pushing through awkwardness, though, can teach you courage. So I told him, and we did talk it out. I felt so much better afterward. Again yesterday we walked to class together as we had classes in the same building at the same time. It was really awkward, but I pushed through it and made small talk, and I know I am a better person for it.
Why do we avoid awkwardness besides the desire to avoid discomfort? What is good about avoiding awkward situations? A lot of things will be missed if we don't ever have enough courage to say something or do something just because it will be uncomfortable. I think that really speaks to how we Americans love comfort so much. It is not wrong necessarily to want to be comfortable, but when we forgo necessary conversations or actions because of it, I think it is a problem.
Especially when you are Christian and you never hold any of your Christian friends accountable because you don't want the necessary "come-to-Jesus" talk and the inevitable discomfort. Or when you never tell anyone about Jesus because you want to avoid awkwardness. Or...fill in the blank.
Do you avoid certain people or conversations because you're afraid it will be awkward? What do you think would happen if you pushed through the awkwardness?
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I agree that awkwardness can be a great thing. I love awkward situations, just because I'm awesome and pushing through them. The problem I have though, is that if my friends can't accept my lack of belief in God (your mention of holding them "accountable") then we shouldn't be friends. I accept the fact that some of my friends do believe in God, so they should be able to do the same.
If my friend wants to give me the "come-to-Jesus" talk, then she isn't really respecting my decisions to live a life without Jesus. If she wants to push through the awkward, go ahead, but its really not her place.
"A lot of things will be missed if we don't ever have enough courage to say something or do something just because it will be uncomfortable."
Awesome sentence.
Five stars for this post. * * * * *
be really awkward around girls. that way they won't find out how often you masturbate, AND they will think you're gay which is a really big turn on for girls because they know they won't have to have kids! woohoo!
ladies: if you push your boobs together and show off your cleavage, it will kind of look like a butt and you'll attract gay misogynists like flies to vinegar. bet you can bet all in that they'll act really awkward so they can get back to getting molested by their daddies
Most definitely, If you feel a sense of wanting to know something about your boyfriend, now's the time. Not after you are married. There are thousands upon thousands of porn addicts out there, and most surely there are signs if you are hooking up with an addict of any kind. Now's the time, not after the ceremony, and a couple of kids. It's one thing to marry a guy who masturbates occasionally, or a girl for that matter, but it's a whole "nuther" story if he has battle scars from his habit.