If one has an itch, best to scratch it and forget it. The alternatives are worse.

God delights in you far more than you can realize. There is no shame with him. The more we understand the depth and breadth of his completed forgiveness, the more we understand who we are now as his children, the easier it becomes to rush back to him when we goof up or fall, and the less shame has a hold on us.

Shame is a big part of the lust cycle. When it is gone, that secret hold that lust has on us also fades.

I understand what it's like to feel that you can't resist a certain temptation, and for me the first step has been to get my mind alligned with the truth. We know that God allows no temptation without providing a way out, and that every temptation we face is common to other people as well (1 Car 10:13). Believe this with your whole heart. Be confident that there is a way to avoid this sin, and that God will help you.

Then pursue the way out. For sexual sin / porn / masturbation, the way out often begins with controling the mind. What I mean is, stop looking or lingering on suggestive images, or women/men in general. You see an attractive person coming toward you, look away. You see a suggestive TV commercial, or character on a program, or picture in a magazine... turn away. Refuse to look. And while you are averting your eyes, get into the habit of affirming, "I refuse to lust" and speak to God, "Lord I believe you give me the strength to avoid this sin." Develop confidence in this, because it is true!

When you are alone at home and tempted toward internet porn, you may need to find an accountability partner... another Christian of the same gender you can trust, who will check up on you and question you about your temptation. It is even possible to install software that will allow someone else to see what you do on the computer. Just knowing that someone else knows can go a long way toward avoiding this temptation. Lust an masturbation thrive on privacy and secrecy. They hate being exposed. So expose them to a trusted accountability partner.

If you can't find such a person, try blocking certain websites yourself. Make them difficult to access. The longer it takes you to access them the more time you have to disarm the temptation, to verbally ask God for help, to verbally affirm "I will not indulge in this anymore!" To remind yourself "If I do this I will hate myself. Jesus, empower me to walk away!" Then walk away. Become firmly convinced in your own mind that God's Word is true - you CAN resist this; God DOES provide a way out; He doesn't hate you, He is ready to work for your freedom! Jesus will set you free from the power of sin. Be confident in His ability to do it.

Along the way you will probably have failures (as you have already) but they don't have to be daily, or even weekly. Eventually they don't have to happen at all. Just be confident that freedom is possible, because God said it is possible, and God has provided the power to do it. And don't think for one minute that God is disgusted with you. You are worth dying for to God. If you don't give up, neither will He, and even if you give up He won't. He really does love you.

DD 

My message box is always open if you need someone to talk to confidentially.

Please don't be afraid to talk to a 'real' pastor/christian who you know and trust about this struggle.  My husband suffered from this sin and it led to him abusing my and nearly broke our marriage, he finally realised it was a problem and spoke to our pastor about it.  Like the vicar above said, if you bring it out into the light it has nowhere to hide. Don't be afraid of their reaction, a true believer in God will not judge you, but will show you love and support and help.  You are not alone, I will pray for you.

So You Want to Kick Your Own Behind But Need Someone To Explain How: here's my suggestion.

When you feel your own behavior has wronged yourself then appropriate self punishment can solve the problem.  You can kick your own behind and it doesn't take much effort.Your subconscious can learn and be retrained reasonably quick.  

First, it wasn't mentioned but if you are not baptized then go and be baptized.  It is terrific to "have accepted Jesus as my Saviour" but baptism is better.

A long while ago and for a number of years I worked in a place where use of the F word in every sentence was normal for many people.  I didn't want to be like that.  You asked, "please tell me how to stop..."  Try this suggestion.  I think it is a good one.  The first rule about this is a "decision" to not cheat on your corrective action.  No cheating.  Apply the correction for every appropriate circumstance.

Put an elastic band on your wrist.  Whenever you sense you are about to act on your thoughts then you know what to do.  Make it sting a little.  Decide on what the line is.  Don't cross it without parenting yourself.  Follow the sting by something a little more time consuming and which will accumulate a count. Pain and reflection is a 2 step process.  For me step 2 involved several washers and 2 pair of nuts and bolts.  Immediately or as soon as you safely and reasonably can then stop what you are doing and do whatever that will keep a tally and take a little time doing it. My thing was I would move a washer from my starting (good) bolt onto the bad bolt.  It meant unthreading the nuts from the bolts so I could move the washer over and then threading the nuts back into place.  The whole time you can't help but think about why you are taking the time to do this and if you had just snapped your wrist with the binder then

.   You might want to do something that requires skill like tossing M&Ms into a tall coffee cup placed some challenging distance away. That might work only if your bad behavior comes up only when near your computer.

At the end of the day when those 2 bolts come out of your pockets or whatever tool you came up with and you reflect on your score or your lack of commitment then make it count.  Think about it and make a plan to get better about it the next day.  You might get over it in only a couple of weeks if you try doing something like that.  I was much better with my communication skills after just a couple weeks of kicking my own behind.  
Kind Regards,

I don't understand if its the act of watching porn and masturbating that you don't like or is it the amount you do it?

...there is a story of a man that needed to hire someone to drive his truck...the truck carried all of this man's valuables...but the path they needed to travel was near a cliff...many accidents had happened time and time again on that road...The first driver he interviewed told the man that he was so good of a driver that he could drive within inches of the cliff's edge the whole time and never lose the cargo!...the second driver that was interviewed was to afraid to drive on that road and refused to work...the third driver told the man -i will stay as far as possible as i can from the edge...i know how important your valuables are!...the man chose the third driver.

i just want to say at a young age i went through this difficulty it was through the holy spirit i stopped i kept on praying and trusting in God that all things are posible, i love Jesus and i know if you dont kill sin sin will kill you even at this young age God revealed things to me and still supported me in school and i grow closer to God but i wanted to get even closer i then realised that the reason why i wasnt growning closer was because of this sexual sin i didnt even watch it i would just look at photos or picture and think that it wast a sin but let me tell you something it sure was . i prayed and asked God for his compassion and his grace and ever since that day i was truely saved glory be to God i know that there is a wasy out of this kind of issue all you,ve got to do is have the fear of God and seek for him but most importantly try through the spirit to do what is right i pray for thoughs having this difficulty i hope through the grace you cna overcome this unnecseray sexual desire God bless