Tuesday, 07 February 2012
I don’t know about your personal experiences, but from the span of 7th grade to my senior year in youth group, I heard so many lessons on finding my future mate, saving myself for marriage, and trusting God with romance that I could have done a month’s worth of 3-point sermons on it.
I have been blessed thus far in my life with great biblical teaching full of depth and wisdom. I may have thought at the time that the lessons on purity and relationships were overdone, but looking back now I am so grateful for those ideals being pounded into my head.
Not only is purity 100% biblical (Heb.13:4 – just for starters), but it really adds a whole lot of freedom to the brain. One statement in particular that has always stuck with me is something my youth pastor’s wife said once, “you can always become like every other girl in school; sleeping with her current boyfriend, but they can never again become like you.”
Ain’t that the truth? Girls get mocked everyday because they have retained their virginity beyond 10th grade, but when it comes down to it; that virginity is something they ought to be dang proud of! And because of the way guys are wired; it amazes me even more to hear a guy speaking about how he has chosen to wait till marriage and will do whatever it takes to follow through on that choice.
Recently I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about marriage and relationships. A little boy at church informed me that I am old enough to be married so I really should get on that. I smiled and told him as soon as God sends me the right man I will see what I can do. But after awhile it does start to get hard; to ‘let go and let God.’
What if I’m destined to be forever single? Can I truly be content in that? What if I don’t get married until I’m past the age of childbirth? Can I be content then? And the thoughts slowly wander in and begin to pester. It’s amazing the way we as humans can doubt God. If it’s questionable, we question it. And somehow even the most innocent comments seem to trigger the most disturbing thoughts.
And which of you by being anxious can add a single day to his span of life? Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble. – Matthew 6:27, 34
I don’t know where you are in life.
Maybe you’re a high schooler sitting through those once-a-month talks on purity in youth group and feeling like it’s being way too overplayed. Trust me, they wouldn’t emphasize it so much if it wasn’t so important. Stick to what you believe and are taught and one day you’ll be glad you did.
Maybe you; like me, are at that stage in the grand Kingdom of Singledom wondering if there’s anyone out there for you or if God truly has called you to be single the rest of your life. When we’re 15 it sounds awesome to hear that God has someone for everyone, but ya know what? God can have a pretty awesome life designed for you even if you do remain single on this earthly planet. Glory in the fact that you are already betrothed to the only PERFECT being in existence and if someone happens to wander along who turns out to be your other half on this earth, then all the more glory be to God.
Or maybe, you are a parent of a child and trying to teach them the ways of sexual purity and modesty. Maybe it seems hopeless in today’s culture to convince your child that purity is the way to go. Please don’t despair. Don’t cave and offer ‘safe sex’ as an alternative. I’m really not that far out of the teen years myself and as much as I wanted to go crazy sometimes from hearing the same purity talk over and over, the pounding into my head has stuck with me and made me grateful beyond belief for parents and leaders just like YOU who were there to guide me and teach me. Thank you for your faith, your persistence, and your patience.
And we know that for those who love God all things will work together for good; for those who are called according to his purpose. – Romans 8:28
What’s your story? Can you relate to the importance of learning Biblical principles such as sexual purity at a young age?