Friday, 20 January 2012
My parents split up in 2006 due to an affair. Parent A didn't feel loved by Parent B, and so sought love in the counsel of another. But Parent A was pretty lazy about it and didn't fight for the marriage. Parent A just let the love die and then ran off with somebody else.
After the split, Parent A and I had family counseling sessions for a while, and I remember explaining that I agreed Parent B did not adequately fulfill a loving role in the marriage, due to being generally naive and oblivious to others' needs. But I said that Parent A was still lazy and making excuses.
If it was my marriage and I felt unloved, I wouldn't just let the marriage go on sucking for fifteen more years and then have an affair. I'd raze hell. I'd throw dishes, make a scene, quit my job, move to Timbuktu, and do whatever it took to get my wife's attention and work together to save our marriage. No excuses.
I am sitting here now and thinking how many Christians make excuses for a pathetic relationship with God. I am not just talking about Xangans, but all Christians.
Even though I grew up in the church and I've known people in person who were Christian in name only, it seems people are more honest about their thoughts and feelings and spiritual state online where there is a certain about of anonymity. People chat, send private messages, e-mails, posts on Facebook, their blogs, and other places that reveal their true condition. While this is good -- I'm glad people have some place to be honest -- it's very sad to see how many Christians really don't know God.
In my mind, if I had a pathetic relationship with God, if I was still struggling with the same old crap that had been on me since I was a child, if I knew there was something seriously broken inside me, in my soul, I wouldn't just keep going to church as usual and nothing else and hope it got better. I'd raze hell. I'd move out, I'd quit my job, I'd make a scene, I'd call someone at two o'clock in the morning, I'd go out to a field and scream and cry and throw stuff until I got from God what I needed. That's how serious my relationship with God is. Nothing else matters and I have no excuse for a bad relationship with my Lord.
If you believe, if you really believe in God, the God of the Bible, the God who always was, who is, and who will always be -- if you really believe, then raze hell. But I see so many Christians, and I read their blogs and get messages from them and see their updates on Facebook (back when I had FB), and they complain about their lives, they whine about somebody who hurt their feelings or complain about their friends or mope around in depression or get angry at God because they have SSA or ADD, or they cry about not having money or a nicer car or this or that. Having a problem is one thing, but letting the problem control you and destroy your relationship with God is a much, much bigger problem.
I hear this a lot: "I know God is good and faithful, but I just wish his church would show me a little love. I need friends to know God's love, and when they don't call me back or return my messages, I just don't feel the love of God in them and so I get lonely, and then I get depressed, and then I see them at church the next Sunday at they act like everything is cool."
Do not tell me you are a Christian if you rely on your friends to fulfill and heal you. You are a Friend-ian. You do not know God, His love, or His sufficiency.
Do not tell me you have a relationship with God if you are content to muddle around in depression, pride, lust, SSA or any other consuming issue and think it's okay, or that it's normal and fine for a Christian. And if you take just a little pleasure in having these struggles because it brings you a sense of justification of your need for love, attention, and pity from others, then God does not know you because you have kept yourself from Him and whored your heart out to any person who would show you a little affection.
Israel wandered around in the desert for forty years because they did not trust God and they complained. In their pride they felt justified because they were God's chosen people, but their hearts were far from Him. Christians wander around in depression and addiction year after year after year and complain and complain and in their pride think they are justified because they're Christians and they go to church. But their hearts are far from God. If I were in that state, I'd do a serious heart check and not go on about a single day more until my relationship with God was restored and I knew my heart was held securely in His hands.
Don't play these stupid, selfish games with God. Get serious. You're time is short. If you really believe, then raze hell to see something change.
These particular issues mentioned may not apply to you personally, but do you feel the need to "get serious" with God? Do you see this need in the Christians around you or in general?