I know someone who's a PK (that's the first time I've heard that) and it's kind of sad because there was a falling out between the pastor and his son, which eventually ended up in the PK being wrongly kicked out of the house.  They have not talked to each other for months, and it's really a sad thing to have happened.  It has upset the whole church, and yet remains swept under the rug.  It's a shame.

On my way to being a pastor's wife.  His studies in Seminary are certainly strengthening my faith and our relationship.  I know that it's going to be a rocky road, but I'm looking forward to it.

Im not a kid but a wife. The only one perfect is Jesus, as a human, your dad is doing the best he can imperfectly.  He is also imperfectly trying to do what God has called him to do but at least he is trying.  If your dad was perfect, then maybe you would worship him and not Jesus.  That was the conclusion I came to when I used to hear my husband speak and Id think to myself and tell God; "yeah, do that at home!"  One day I was convicted of my thoughts and I heard this being said; "Try hearing Me instead of him." I prayed before service that I would hear the voice of God and not my husband... It was incredible how much I learned that day and the many times after.

My husband is currently on his internship phase of his seminary/pastoral career. He is always teaching me something new about God, the Bible, our Faith, etc. The hardest part for me is knowing that there are expectations that come along with being a Pastor's wife. Now while those rules have relaxed  a lot since the 1950's... many older generations or more conservative churches/church members feel the Pastor's wife should be involved in everything. I do enjoy attending church, however I have no intention of being there for every single Bible Study, church fundraiser, I will not play the piano or teach Sunday School. While I am 100% supportive of him, this is his calling, not necessarily mine. I have my own career that I want to be successful at. I am more than just a wife, I am a women who is educated and likes working, and hopefully someday I will be a Mother as well. Luckily for me, my husband is very understanding of this. He doesn't even care if I worship at his Church. I do because I like being in the same space as him during the Church service, and he is a gifted minister in training. I also find it odd that people expect him to be perfect and assume that our marriage is wonderful as well. Don't get me wrong, he is a great person, but he too sins. Yes he swears on occasion, makes mistakes, and drinks (we are Lutheran...so that is pretty acceptable to most of the church congregants). Our marriage is great, but we struggle like any other couple. We have fights and we have been through some hard times, but we are committed to each other. If only people would stop looking at a Pastor and his family as such a higher position. We are just people to, and we are a family like any other. The only difference is in the profession that he holds.

I have had several pastors become dear friends.... and I have seen them be human.  I have seen many members who think their children should not act like children, but be perfect just as the pastor should be perfect.  

@big_luke20@xanga - Do you really think it's weird? People at your church shouldn't judge you for your mistakes; they will see you through God's love and generally accept that we are indeed human and and mess up sometimes. But your non-believing coworkers don't understand God's love and grace or really what you believe; they only know that by calling yourself a christian you are called to obey God's standards over the world's so it seems they are right to hold you to a higher standard. It's true we're all human, but that gives no excuse for our sinning; that's exactly what Romans 6:1 is talking about. We still sin, but overall we ought to come off as having a purer lifestyle because we are of a different world and called to be holy. We can't just blow off sin as no big deal because we've already been forgiven. John 15 speaks of how we'll know a person by their fruit. If the world sees no fruit or fruit that is no different then theirs then how will we ever be able to evangelize?

HA! I NEVER tell people that I'm a PK when I meet them. I wait until it comes up on it's own in conversation. That way, they get to know me for who I am first.

Sinicline's right, but I'd like to extend that a little further. Of course, not just anybody can lead a church. But even beyond that, not everyone "called to be a pastor" can lead a church either. At least, not at any given point in time. Yes, pastors are no less human than anyone else, absolutely. Yes, they still sin. BUT sin can certainly disqualify a man from being in a position to lead. Am I saying that some sins are greater than others? Not at all. It has to do with the position of the heart. If a pastor is consistently seeking his own, without any kind of repentance, he is not fit to lead others because he is clearly not heeding the Word of God. One pastor in particular continues to stand by his extra-marital relationship with his secretary - seeking his own, not fit to lead. That is, not fit right now. King David was extremely repentant of his immense sins (take your pick on whichever one we're talking about here!) and he was still fit to lead because his heart was repentant, humble, and sought the will of Lord over his own. Definitely fit to lead, even though he sins. This can com through in smaller ways, too. I recently heard of a pastor of a very successful mega church taking a sabbatical for a while because he realized that pride had crept into his heart. He recognized that he was seeking his own, rather than the Lord's will. Not a permanent banishment from the church, just a little stepping back for a while. THAT's what a leader should be like.
But you're right - people do need to realize that hey, pastors are people too.

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