Monday, 02 January 2012
Everyone looks up to the pastor as a leader and an example. The pastor is seen as the pinnacle of a church and rightly so as he is the human shepherd of the flock. Jesus is the true shepherd but the pastor has been called by God to serve as a leader in the church and how many times do we consider the thought of leading by example? Therefore, I come back to my first statement. Everyone looks up to the pastor as a leader and an example.
I think the worst part about being a PK -- pastor's kid for all of you not up with the lingo -- is seeing all the faults in a pastor. I mean this in no bad way. Everyone is human and everyone has faults and a sinful nature. But when you expect to look up to the pastor as an example it is difficult to not judge the everyday mishaps of life.
"Practice what you preach" is a common aphorism. For pastors this is not just a pithy, everyday saying. It is a lifestyle. But everyone makes mistakes. The problem therein is not judging the pastor for not practicing what he preaches simply because he makes mistakes in everyday life. As every human does.
People see pastors as holier than most and when you live with the pastor you see his humanity all too well and miss out on the opportunity to look up to the pastor as a leader and example like the rest of the church. But is it really missing out? The trick is to not look at it as missing out but as an added blessing and a learning experience.
That a human can be as soaked and covered in the Bible as a pastor is and yet the humanity allows for error that will keep them from being put on a pedestal so that Jesus is the only one raised above. We are all human and we all ought to be held to the same high bar. So if the pastor is held to a higher standard then the rest of us; we should not all gasp in unison when he falls below the standard but instead we should offer support and reach for that same standard ourselves.
See it as a blessing when you see a pastor with a family. They are serving the Lord in more ways then most imagine. And stop giving PK's a bad rep. Some of us actually do care and don't really appreciate the stereotype. Everyone has a place in life and has been called to something. If a man has been called to lead a church and have a family then may God bless him all the more. And may his family support him fully rather than giving in to the temptation to judge him every time he fails at practicing what he preaches 100%.
It's a constant struggle for me to not judge my father too harshly every time I see something 'hypocritical,' but that just goes to show how much I myself need to work.
Any other thoughts on living with the pastor? Are you a pastor's kid or know someone who is? What are the benefits of living with the pastor?