Wednesday, 16 November 2011
“If you fasten your feebleness on someone else’s strength, the existence for you must be a scene of continual change and excitement or else the world is a dungeon.” – Jane Eyre, Chapter 21
How true this quote is -- not just for fictional characters from the lines of a novel, but for you and me as well.
How many times have you sought out a friend for support? By no means am I against that; in fact, I think it is needed that we have people who understand us, who accept us for who we are, and have them by our sides as we live in this world that tends to leave us feeling lonely and unwanted.
But how many times have you constantly sought out the same friend for the same exactly problem from all those years ago? Or maybe it’s not the same friend, but simply different people?
How many times have you felt that satisfying release from being freed of the burdens from the chains that have tied your heart down for so long even for a short moment?
How comforting and freeing it is to have someone to encourage or just listen to all the torments and struggles that your spirit has been forced to endure – even for a short moment.
In the end, the problems don’t go away. The chains remain. When the pressure rises again from within your heart, you are left to relive this cycle of seeking out a kindred spirit.
When we depend on another human being to be strong for us, we are simply finding excuses for ourselves to not face reality. It is simply a means to find a momentary borrowed strength to escape the pains in life. Eventually, we will grow tired of these dependent relationships because we feel that they are not enough to cover the pain that we feel and is constantly threatening to resurface.
Only when the strength comes from a source within ourselves can we conquer the pains of life. Only then will we stop moving from one external and fleeting source of strength to another.
When the pressures rise again from within your heart -- when you are ready -- you can find the power to force them back down.Be strong for yourself, because no one can be strong for you.
Have you fastened your feebleness on someone else's strength? When have you relied on someone else to be strong for you rather than facing your problems on your own? Did your problems go away, or did they return?