By Dave at The Mockingbird Blog
An absolute must-read article by Taylor Clark over at Slate, American Anxiety: It's Not The Job Market, in which he discusses three of the main reasons experts attribute the astronomic rise in anxiety in the US, citing a statistic "The average high school kid today has the same level of anxiety as the average psychiatric patient in the early 1950s." Of the three reasons cited, while the first is something of a defacto advertisement for church, it's the third that actually resonates with a Christian understanding of things most. Apparently, the notion that we shouldn't be anxious is actually creating more anxiety (sound familiar?!). In other words, we would all be a lot less anxious if we were disabused of the notion that we're in control of everything, especially our emotions, that the cruciform shape many of our lives take is not an accident to be avoided - it might even have something to do with our redemption. For the experts, [the first] particularly egregious offender is America's increasing loss of community, what we might call the
"Bowling Alone" effect. Human contact and kinship help alleviate anxiety (our evolutionary ancestors, of course, were always safer in numbers), yet as we leave family behind to migrate all over the country, often settling in insular suburbs where our closest pal is our plasma-screen TV, we miss out on this all-important element of in-person connection. As fear researcher Michael Davis of Emory University told me: "If you've lost the extended family and lost the sense of community, you're going to have fewer people you can depend on, and therefore you'll be more anxious. Other cultures have much more social support and are better off psychologically because of it."
Continuing with this tech theme, the next culprit the experts mentioned was the torrent of (often nerve-racking) information we now consume. For one thing, the amount of data we take in each day has jumped dramatically—the average Sunday newspaper contains more raw information than people in earlier eras would absorb over the course of a few years—and some neuroscientists believe that our brains simply weren't designed to handle this kind of volume. But even worse, this avalanche of data is increasingly of the alarmist, fear-igniting variety. If a TV newscast isn't covering a grisly double homicide, the anchor is teasing a story about the hidden threat
in your own home. "The media does this to us," explained Evelyn Behar, a worry expert who teaches at the University of Illinois-Chicago. "It's always reporting that this thing causes cancer or that thing can kill you. We live in a culture where fear is used to motivate us."
And finally, we're especially vulnerable to this kind of manipulation because of the third factor: our intolerant attitude toward negative feelings. Put simply,
Americans have developed habits for dealing with anxiety and stress that actually make them far worse
. We vilify our aversive emotions and fight them, rather than letting them run their own course. We avoid situations that make us nervous. We try to bury uncomfortable feelings like anxiety and stress with alcohol or entertainment or shopping sprees. Psychologist Steven Hayes, creator of a highly effective anxiety
treatment formula called acceptance and commitment therapy, told me that
we've fallen victim to "feel-goodism," the false idea that "bad" feelings ought to be annihilated, controlled, or erased by a pill. This intolerance toward emotional pain puts us at loggerheads with a basic truth about being human: Sometimes we just feel bad, and there's nothing wrong with that—which is why struggling too hard to control our anxiety and stress only makes things more difficult.
Comments (3)
all the same, i think the author is generalizing far too much. a vast majority of people i know have practically no anxiety whatsoever.
also, i want to point out that there is a huge difference between saying that feeling bad is a normal part of life, and saying that it is to be expected. as one who suffers with clinical depression, my bad feelings are not normal and are very often life-threatening. yes, feeling bad is a part of life. so is getting cancer... yet i don't see any argument against curing it.
I can definitely relate with the topic of community (or lack thereof). As someone who fairly recently relocated to the other side of the country, thousands of miles from friends and family, it's been tough at times finding my way into strong, healthy community with others. I'm an introvert and need my alone time, but we all need others to connect with and share some of the emotional load. I've certainly found that anxiety can infect the soul in both scenarios - in solitude and in striving to find/maintain community - but that the latter option yields much more fruitful end-results. People need people. We need each other.
much of american christianity can be criticized for this as well...
i know guys that brag about how god gave their son for their lives, but how do they show their thanks? they just try in silly ways to act more content and nonchalant and at ease than they quite are.
we all want to look cool for each other, but perhaps what's missing in america largely is the sense of shared struggle (having lived in south korea for the last half a year, i saw even more how ridiculously wannabe-laidback americans are)... there's nothing that we want to struggle together for, or to be seen to be struggling towards, even though it ought to be a struggle...