Friday, 11 June 2010
I chuckled as I asked my friend in pure honesty: "Does it still count if you're abstinent out of lack of 'resources' versus obedience?" My friend laughed and affirmed that she was in the same boat that I was. In one vein, her and I are convicted to remain abstinent but that's mostly because we haven't been in a situation that would test our abstinence.
Does it still count as obedience in God's eyes if you're abstinent out of convenience versus pure conviction?
Rampant sex is a lifestyle for people in my age group. We've even developed phrases like "hooking up" or "one night stand" to categorize the various levels of sexual activity and lack of commitment that go with each. At the end of the day, it's called good ole' promiscuity. No one likes that word (not even me). It's a dirty word. It makes you feel sleazy and used up like a floozy. But at the end of the day and semantics aside, sleeping around is what it is. "A rose by any other name would smell as sweet" as Shakespeare reminds us in Romeo & Juliet.
First off, I'm not 'holier than thou' by any stretch of the imagination. I have had my indiscretions as my friend has. She and I have rededicated our lives to God and keep each other encouraged via text, email, phone calls on great things we've come to know in Christ. I'm so glad to have her as a friend because I can be completely real with her. I don't have to sugarcoat anything. In one of our moments of honesty, I admitted that I was not abstinent out of some deep conviction of heart. I'm not sure if that still counts for anything in the eyes of God.
As we spoke, my friend brought up a great point. She said that all Christians need to undergo a "spiritual circumcision". This spiritual circumcision will align us with Christ's word and convict us from the inside out and not viceversa. Obedience and spiritual circumcision clearly count in God's eyes. By the end of our conversation, I knew I needed to pray. I needed to thank God for making sex inconvenient right now firstly. Secondly, I need to give God the reigns on my loins and ask Him for a spiritual circumcision. After all, if I'm celibate I mine as well get the blessing to boot right?
Does abstinence count if it's only out of condition and not convenience? Do you need a spiritual circumcision to go deeper with God? Are you abstinence out of obedience or because there's no eligibles in your orbit?