If I may ask & you can msg What happened in  your life to make this so? It would help me answer you better. Bc simply loosing sight of Him isn't the same as Losing Him & his gift of salvation.

you can't lose your salvation. here's how i see it: if you get saved and then go out and commit murder or convert to satanism or something, then your heart was never in it and you were never saved in the first place. 

We weren't saved based on our own good works and therefore we can't be unsaved, so to speak, by our bad works. Our salvation rests securely in the work of Jesus Christ on our behalf. Romans 8:29-30.

It's possible the person you wrote about is saved and will yet return to the Church and bring forth evidence of Christ's life in him/her. The Christian can backslide but not irreparably. If someone is really saved, they'll live like it. That doesn't mean we won't sin, but it means we won't be able to continue in sin indefinitely b/c the Holy Spirit who dwells in believers will convict us of sin and draw us to confession and repentance. The book of I John is really helpful; it outlines all the proofs of salvation, the evidence/fruit that will appear in Christians. Those who aren't saved may remain in the church for a time but will eventually turn away and never turn back (e.g.- I John 2:19).

I can only feel sad for this person who has written this.

I am wondering what really made the person lose Faith. No matter what, we fall but the Lord is always there for you when you get up, and wants to walk with Him again. (For instance, parable of the unfaithful son) His love is there for you.

We also got to remember that it is the Lord who chose you from the end of the earth.

Your friend's being honest about his/her feelings and brokenness; that's thousand times better than those who go to church and believe that they are saved and somehow in a better camp of "Christians". It's important as a friend to empathize with the pain/disappointment/guilt or whatever it might be rather than imposing the whole "Jesus loves you" talk. It's sickening in the Christian circle (at least the one I'm in) people are quick to "lecture" you with their oh-so-amazing understanding of God's love when you feel down. They make Jesus' grace sounds cheap. They makes me keep my feelings to myself rather than share it. I don't know what your friend's going through but instead of saying things like "oh I'm sorry you don't get it... you're missing out on God's love" or "maybe you should try praying more" etc., just be there and empathize. I just wish that people I know can just simply walk in the spirit of God rather than lecture me about God with their super knowledge.

I thought it depended on faith so however much you believe 

It sounds to me like she's lost her faith in legalism. I recognize a lot of the pattern here: I suspect that she's been in a place where legalism is equated to the gospel, and now that she's realized legalism doesn't work (i.e. she's unable to keep doing the "right Christian things") she thinks she's lost her faith in  Christianity. In fact, she may be quite a bit closer to the Lord than she's been before. What happens next in her spiritual journey may depend on how soon she reads the book of Galatians, and realizes that emotions, church attendance, behavior, etc. have nothing intrinsically to do with the question of whether you have faith in the grace of God.

As for the general question, I don't think people can lose what's not theirs to keep. Romans 8, yo!

@Theophilus166@xanga - Yes, I think you have nailed it.  The warnings are definitely there, but a relationship with God is not 'lost' like when we misplace a coin, etc.  However, people can make a conscious decision to intentionally and blatantly and heartlessly turn their back on God and all He has meant to them.---like Diotrophes(?) who abandoned the faith.   LAW--

no you can not lose your salvation like your keys.but you can deny jesus christ turn your back on him .because jesus christ  said if you deny me i will deny you.a perfect example would be some one fixin to be shot are burn at the steak.if they dont deny jesus.and there desire to live is worth more than there desire to live with christ then they deny jesus christ to save there own skin and live.like the devil said in job4 skin for skin a man will give all that he has for it .but job show us that a man can keep trusting god and make it .

jesus will not deny you if you repent of your sins and keep trying to resist sinfor jesus said resist the devil and he will get flees come on its a joke and the devil will flee are run from you .remember what jesus said  to cain before he killed his brother abel ;;and god said to cain why are you angry if you do good will you not be excepted behold are look sin lays at your door are your  mine and its desire is to have you .so ask jesus for strenght and keep on going .father i come to you in the name of jesus please help help us to never give up slow down are give out an bless us lord in jesus mighty name we pray and all those that agree say