Sunday, 18 October 2009
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What Makes a Real Man: A Godly Response
After reading a depressing (at least to me) featured post on Mancouch about the male psyche, I thought I would celebrate the great qualities of the real men I have known.
1. Real men are selfless enough to turn off the TV and listen when needed.
2. Real men care about their appearance.
3. Real men care enough about the woman they're with to reassure her when she needs it.
4. Real men are kind.
5. Real men spend time with their children.
6. Real men are honest and straightforward.
7. Real men compromise when it doesn't matter and stand their ground when it matters.
8. Real men have confidence.
9. Real men do not demand things of the people they love.
10. Real men give their best in the things they do.
11. Real men are mature enough to put themselves third. (Jesus-others-self)12. Real men are willing to fight for a woman's heart, not sit on the couch and wait for her to take the initiative, both before marriage and throughout its entire duration.
13. Real men are willing to die for what they believe and the people they love.
14. Real men know what real respect and love are, both the receiving (from God) and the giving (to others).
And lastly,
15. Real men exist. These are not pie-in-the-sky fantasy qualities. They are all embodied by real men I have known like my father, my grandfathers, my uncles, my cousins, and my friends.
There's only one way to start down the road of being a real man, and that's beginning a relationship with Jesus Christ, the ultimate, perfect, awesome real man.Dedicated to the real men I've known. May others continue to follow you.
What qualities would you add to this list?
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I agree with all points. The only thing that I'd add is to #2: Real men care about their appearance, but are not conceited or arrogant about it.
Other than that, there's nothing else to add.
Very nice!
I'd add "Real men don't try to win arguments but work to resolve them."
In reality, men behave in many different ways for different reasons. Your post should be more about ideal men than real men.
THANK YOU. I am so sick of seeing posts on mancouch by "real men" who act like little boys, listing all the qualities you see in someone who needs a little bit of growing up to do. The lists are made up of so many selfish qualities.
"Real men" are just as real as "real women". No one man is going to have all of these things, nor do I expect him to.
@Shy___Away@xanga - No man is perfect of course, so no man will display all of these at all times. I am very grateful to know and have known several men who do have all of these qualities a lot of the time. Because I know it's possible with God's help, I do expect any man I would ever consider having a serious relationship with to be working on all of these. He doesn't have to be there, but I expect him to be working on them, just as I am working on being the best woman I can be with God's help.
beautiful and so true :]]
gotta love our men
A real man would take look at that longass list of yours and say, "Screw all that! I'm outta here!!
@LoBornlyte@xanga - LOL Well, thankfully some great real men didn't do that when they read it on my blog :)
@Pickwick12@xanga - LOL Well, thankfully some great real men didn't do that when they read it on my blog :)
They may be great men as far as you're concerned, but generally men who have not been emasculated hate long lists of things they need to do in order to be a good man.
Men understand simple concepts like honor and fairness. Those two concepts alone cover most of your list of 15.
When Jesus was with his disciples he boiled down the list of commandments from 10 to 2. Guys are just like that.
@LoBornlyte@xanga - Well, my dad is taking issue with that, but you're welcome to your opinion
i'd add.
Reject apathy
Embrace integrity
Accept respnsibility
Lead courageously
i'd also like to point out that not possessing these qualities makes one less of a man or not one at all.
i love being married to a real man.
I'd also like to add that "real husbands" love their wives the way Christ loves the church, that he is willing to give his life for her.. and mine does that.
Real men also
Defy Mediocrity
@FreeeVerse@xanga - Agreed...Beautiful picture from the "Divine Mercy" by the way.
I disagree with #9. "Real men" (whatever that means) ought to demand the best in others because doing so recognizes the God-given potential in them and challenges them to attain great things. Of course, real men will do it in a sensitive and nurturing way, but encourages others to pursue ideals nonetheless.
Most of the things on this list should apply to everyone in general, not just men. I know some women who need to "compromise when it doesn't matter and stand their ground when it matters." good list though.
i noticed a few of these deal with married men. what if a man has "renounced marriage for the sake of the kingdom," are these men not considered real men?
Is every other man a figment of our imaginations?
One missing from the list is real men remember to put the toilet seat back down. :)
Just kidding. :)
@stardustskye@xanga - I agree!
@TheSutraDude@xanga - lol!In general: This is a great list to strive for - as is Proverbs 31 for the ladies (married and single). No one is perfect, and there are no perfect husbands or bachelors out there. However, the 2 commandments Christ left us to obey definitely encompasses qualities on this list. Thank God we have an advocate with Father...
I'm not real impressed by the picture of Jesus, though. That is NOT my impression of the most real man who ever walked the face of this earth. Most pics of Christ depict him as the saddest, girliest-looking person ever. Not true! He had rough hands, dark hair, dark eyes - nothing about him said "I am from Above" as far as physical appearance. I can't wait to see him face to face!
@badcats@xanga - Yeah, I didn't pick the picture they used. I don't like it either.
all i have to add is that this list is pretty much identical to the qualities i attribute to both women and men. in regards to no. 12, i'm willing to affirm that in a "carpe diem" kind of way, but not in a "i'm the man, so it's my job to make the first move" kind of way.
and in regards to your last point, that men can't become the "real" man you describe here until they become christians--wtf? the only people who are or can be confident, kind, respectful, good parents, hard-working, etc are christians?I take issue w/ number 11. Real men know when to be selfish and to put their needs first so that they can love others.
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