Friday, 14 August 2009
People tend to lump preacher's kids (PKs) into two categories; you're either an angel or a rebel. The angels go to church every Sunday, say their prayers every night, know the bible by heart, never drink or do drugs, and never have sex until they're married. The rebels, in an effort to break this stereotype, go overboard in the other direction, trying everything in the book so they won't be seen as a goody-two-shoes PK. In reality, most of us are somewhere in between these two extremes.
As a minister's daughter, I've been a little of an angel and a rebel. I did what the congregation expected of me. I attended church most Sundays, went to sunday school or youth group, sang in the choir,and participated in the various church functions.
At the same time, I had my fun. As a teenager, I had my moments of rebellion as any teenager does. One night I got drunk with a friend when my parents were away and ended up passed out on a neighbour's lawn. I also met a guy online and had sex with him the second time we met. Granted, he is now my husband of 7 years and we have two children together, but it would sound so much more rebellious if I left that part out. Now I rarely go to church, or read the Bible, or even pray. I still consider myself spiritual person, but I can only take organized religion in small doses.
You're probably wondering what my father thinks of all this. He's actually a very liberal person and doesn't impose his religious beliefs on anyone else, not even his own children. Even my mom rarely attends church anymore now that my dad is retired. I still love his sermons though, and I'll gladly go to church if he happens to be preaching. He's a great man and I'm glad I'm his daughter. I wouldn't have it any other way.
Is there a balance for preacher's kids or do they have to act a certain way?