Recently, Revelife featured a post entitled, What is Your View on Dating or Marrying a Non-Christian?
Readers gave widely varying, thought-provoking responses to the question.
I'd like to pose another question that also concerns your marriage choices. Would you marry a Christian of another denomination?
As a Catholic, I have always told myself that should I fall in love with a Protestant man, I would marry him. We both believe in Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior. We're all one body in Christ. So what's the difference?
However, I tend to ignore the more difficult aspect of the situation: our theological differences. Of course, there are the worship differences. Catholics (though not all) tend to worship in a more traditional manner. Protestants (with exceptions) tend to worship more charismatically. It's difficult, and sometimes awkward, to worship in a manner that one isn't accustomed to.
For me, the most essential difference between Catholics and Protestants is what we believe about the Eucharist. I've always believed in transubstantiation -- the bread and the wine literally become the body and blood of Christ. I know that my Protestant friends disagree and view the Eucharist as merely bread and wine, symbols that are shared among the congregation in remembrance of Christ's sacrifice. I would not readily feel comfortable with compromising my belief in this fundamental aspect of my faith simply because my (hypothetical) husband does not believe in it. And I'm sure he wouldn't be comfortable attending my church, where he is not welcome to receive this sacrament because he doesn't believe he is receiving Christ's literal body and blood.
As much as I would want to make an inter-denominational marriage work, I'm not sure I would be able to. Which denomination would the children be brought up in? Also, I strongly dislike the idea of one partner switching their denomination simply because they want to avoid conflicts with their spouse. The only condition under which a person should change their denomination is if they truly feel God is leading them to do so.
I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with marrying someone of a different Christian denomination. However, my concern is that theological differences will cause more tension than harmony in the marriage.Would you marry a Christian of a different denomination? Do you think such a marriage could work?