Thursday, 30 July 2009
Excuse me while I dump my brain onto this page...
There is a gentlemen who I met through work who was recently ordained to be a minister, that I am considering asking to be the officiant over my wedding. A pretty simple choice...only he is gay. I'm pretty jumbled in the head over whether or not it is "right," on many levels, to have him marry me.
He's homosexual, which according to the book that guides my life, is a sin. BUT, no man or woman is without sin, even pastors and preachers, so if I'm looking for a sinless minister, that isn't going to happen anyway.
I almost feel uncomfortable asking him to marry my fiance and I, when he and his partner are, under law, forbidden to be married. Although I am Christian, I feel that marriage is a right that is part of a group of rights that all United States citizens are entitled to. It is not my place to judge whether or not that marriage is accepted under God, but it is my place as a citizen to advocate for equal rights for all people.
Is it right? Is it wrong? What makes it wrong if it is wrong? That he's homosexual? Ugh, I'm just so confused.
My fiance doesn't see a problem with having him lead our wedding. In all reality, does the officiant of the service, whoever he or she may be, have any bearing on the marriage? Marriage to me is a three way commitment between the man, the woman, and God, so would it even matter if I called a bum in off the street to marry us, if our vows between us and God are sincere?
Boooo to confusion.
What do you think? Would it be wrong for me to ask him to be the officiant at my wedding?