Well what are YOU doing about it?  Are you putting yourself out there, or do you expect a girl to ring your doorbell one day and say "Hi!  I was sent by God and I'd like to be your girlfriend!"  You gotta go out there and talk to some chicks, man.

And about wasting your time with your beliefs - if you don't truly believe what you believe, then don't bullshit around with it.  Be true to yourself; if you think that the evidence points to there probably being no God, or at least not the Christian God, then don't run from that; embrace it!  Don't lie to yourself, because that's the source of misery...

But yeah, anyway, don't rely on some belief to do all of your work for you; put yourself out there and meet some girls.  You're 21, you've got plenty of time, but also don't need to be wasting it...  Have patience, and don't rely on some belief to do YOUR work.

Some correct points.

Additionally, its common to direct prayers like that. Usually, we may want a partner now because we have good intentions and want to have someone to pour out care and love towards. In a way, it is kind of a selfish prayer, and I've prayed it many times. Something I've been learning though is that maybe we shouldn't be praying for God to give us a companion to love, but instead ask and learn from God on how one can be the best person for another, if it be your companion.

Honestly, God has placed many people out there who can be compatible. It all depends on if you're willing to become a person that God will use to work in their lives. God does bless us, but he also grows us. Sometimes, the blessing comes through us growing.

Something I'm still learning and working on doing, but at least to me, it has been rewarding spending time and asking God how to become a good friend towards men and women, and when the time is right, I'll start asking God to help me find someone that'll grow us closer to him, that'll help us love other people, and lastly, will have a great time personally and intimately.

But be at peace my fellow 21 year old!

If you are Christ's, God is your heavenly Father. He wants to give you good things. For some reason, He has not seen fit to give you a girlfriend. Do you trust that He knows what is best for you? Ask Him to help you find your complete satisfaction and joy in Him, for as a wife (or a husband) can be a blessing to us, she/he can never completely satisfy us like God can. God is to be our all in all. We are to be content w/ what we have at any times, trusting that our heavenly Father does know our needs. He has promised to never leave us or forsake us. He is the Friend that sticks closer than a brother.

You have said you've prayed, but I'd ask you to consider praying a bit differently. Have you ever prayed to God to help you to embrace your singleness now? Have you asked God for grace to help you through? Have you asked God to help you to know His sufficiency whether or not you ever have a girlfriend or get married? Have you asked God to increase your love for Him and your knowledge of His great love for you?

God does not call everyone to the married life. For those He does, it is a real blessing, but it is not without challenge. Many singles look at marriage and think all their problems go away. That is not the case. (I have been married for over 25 years and it has been a blessing but not always easy.) Perhaps God will call you to be married, perhaps not. But in the meantime, I am praying you would make the most of your time now and seek to grow in the grace & knowledge of the Lord Jesus. As a single person, you can devote yourself wholly to God, you don't have the concern about a girlfriend/wife. Yes, I know it can be lonely for sure. Even married people get lonely. Let your loneliness take you to the arms of your heavenly Father and you will find God to be totally sufficient for you. Please reread Paul's words in I Corinthians 7 and see the privilege you have now as a single person. Paul also tells the married person not to seek to be freed from his/her spouse and tells the single person not to seek to be married. That means that God wants us to embrace our state in life right now. We can't keep looking forward and playing the "what if" game, that will only paralyze us. (That doesn't mean He may not bring you a girlfriend/wife, but only that you ought to ask Him to help you to be content today and trust in Him.) Please pray to God to embrace your singleness as a gift, and ask Him to give you the grace to do so however long He has for you to remain single.

I will be praying for you. He has been and He will be with you, brother.

hey, i'm 21 and lonely, too!  though, in my case, it's by choice for the time being.  all i have to say is i believe, with all my heart, that it is irrational to expect an imaginary figure to grant you a wish.  if you want something, you gotta work for it, and i don't mean just pray harder.  get out and start living your life.

dude.......you are 21. TWENTY ONE! not to sound mean, but like 95% of people in the world are going thru a lot crazier crap than just not having found a companion yet. (again......you are TWENTY ONE!).

if not finding a companion by 21 is all it takes to shake your faith.......i think you should spend more time asking God for stronger faith than finding a companion. again, not to be mean, but you really have to question your faith if you are basing it on circumstances in life and what God does or does not do for you.

God hears your prayers, but sometimes God's answer is no, or not right now. Be patient and lean on God and know that God is ultimately looking out for your own good.

God wants us to know Him and He wants all of us.

At least for me, I know that I need to make God my first priority and love before I can get involved in a relationship with someone else, otherwise I won't be able to love that person the way God intends and I won't be able to love God the way I should either.

Maybe just focus your efforts on drawing close to God and getting to know Him more. Ask Him to change your desires so that He will be your first and foremost desire.

I don't believe that you have to "put yourself out there." Delight yourself in God and trust that He'll work it out in His timing. God knows His plans for your life and he can certainly bring a girl across your path when He wants to. But He also can have plans for you right now while you're single, to serve Him and grow in Him and know Him more in a specific way.

"I constantly commit this one sin all the time and can't stop.  I will
be doing so good for two, then three weeks, and boom -- I do it again
to the point where I feel like I have no chance of ever going to
heaven."
You're not alone. Many of us, if not all humans, stumble in different areas repeatedly. Even the apostle Paul felt this way (Romans 7). I just want to remind you that the Bible says that it's not by works that we are saved, but by grace through faith in Jesus Christ. (Ephesians 2:8-9). God's love for you is unchanging and His salvation for you is guarenteed if you have placed your faith in Jesus. It isn't based on your track-record. Only God can change us, so when we find ourselves falling over and over again, I think we need to keep giving it back to God and trusting that He will work in us to change us rather than try to conquer it in our own efforts.

You're still young plus God merely listens to prayers it's up to you to actually do something about it 

@ingiardino@xanga - What, exactly, are you referring to?

Whatever it is, I don't use God as an excuse/reason for unexplainable phenomena.

god isn't some ATM machine or credit card that you can max out whenever you like.

and I'm not even religious

now instead of whining because a girl didn't fall out of the sky and into your lap, go out and increase your chances of getting one. because right now god probably thinks you're a wuss and not ready for a companion yet.

Is it really asking if you can only accept one answer? Sometimes God answers "no."

Look, God desires the best for you, but that may involve lengthy hardship. You might go to the grave poor, lonely, and in pain. But, consider the apostles. They suffered long and hard, and considered it joyful that they could do that for God. Their blessings were also spiritual; in what (I believe) was the greatest moment in his life, Stephen saw God as he was stoned to death. They forsook everything, because it was all nothing compaired to what they had in Christ.

It is tough being alone, but ask God to sustain you in the meantime. Keep praying to Him and he will honor it. If he is withholding your prayer request, either: he's going to give you something better, he wants you to wait longer, or you have sin or problems in your life that needs to be dealt with first. Read the Bible out loud and declare it, Psalms is a great place to read from in time of affliction. Tell God your pain and ask for comfort, and trust Him.

P.S. your 21, if you don't get a girlfriend within the next few years don't lose your faith in God. For some people, that person comes in their 40's, 50's ect. If you never do get a girlfriend (which isn't very likely), know the Lord will sustain you.

Try to get to the point where you know the Lord can sustain you for the rest of your life, otherwise, you are bound to make a terrible decision in choosing your mate, and other bad ones in the actual relationship. 

Don't forget that despite the fact that God gives us anything, He doesn't have too. He isn't made for us, we are made from Him, but He still helps us.

1. Pray fervently

2. read the word often

3. fast (don't eat, get some juice for nurishment if you want)

4. go to church, get help from other followers of Christ

5. confess your sin

6. submit yourself to God's will and not your own, take up your cross daily

7. ask God to reveal to you who He is and His love for you (not just in your mind but in your heart), because the more we know about who He is, the less we can fret.

8. Ask for Sustaining, and know God is more than sufficient

9. and do this all faithfully in waiting. Otherwise you have no excuse to complain.

And once again, know that He wants the best for you. That doesn't necessarily mean a mate right now, or even in a couple years. I'm really happy God didn't answer my insisting prayers for a girl a couple years ago. I can now see this looking back, and I'm sure you'll look back one day with more wisdom :) .