you used the wrong affect.
as a result, this post is not having much effect on me... :\
(well, i'm a sixteen year old girl so...)

@whataboutbahb@xanga - You very obviously have no clue what you're talking about.  But seeing as you're a man who is obviously not a Christian, that shouldn't be surprising.

sorry, but as a woman i have no problem with men looking at porn.  it doesn't make me feel unloved, unattractive, or unwanted.  it doesn't make me trust him any less.  looking at pictures and watching movies is not equal to actually going out and physically cheating, or ignoring your wife. 

you're pretty arrogant to assume that you know how all women feel.  

@whataboutbahb@xanga - Even if #2-4 aren't universal or convincing, if #1 is true, the other ones simply don't matter.  I'd say points 2-4 are solid supporting arguments, even if the issue doesn't stand or fall on them individually.

An elaboration on modern Christian views of sexuality as being "ridiculous" would also be helpful.

@theacematt2@xanga - thank you :) i'm just tired of men assuming that all women are irrationally self-conscious and insecure.  i don't need to feel like i am the only woman my man desires... i've seen some gorgeous women in the movies and at the mall.  and i'm sure that, if he was single, he'd love to get with one of them.  but what matters is that he doesn't, not that he has those thoughts to begin with.  if you can't trust the person you're with, you shouldn't be with him. 

conversely, the women who are against men watching porn are usually the ones gushing over a shirtless Johnny Depp or Daniel Craig.  it's hypocritical.  

some couples use it as a tool to help better their intimacy. some women view it to help them explore themselves. yeah you're right it can be a bad thing but i also know married couples who it's helped.

I'm agnostic so I won't comment about the religious side of it.

I don't mind porn. My boyfriend and I watch it sometimes; it gives us ideas for positions, turns us on, involves us both instead of one sneaking away from the other.

@Job_One_21@xanga - LOL oooh, judgment! Yummm.

@Job_One_21@xanga - 

Point #2 tries to invoke reason based merely off an emotional response. Does being raised Amish make watching TV a sin just because you feel guilty while doing it? Rationalizing what should or should not be done (or what is right or wrong) based on an emotional response is a horrible idea.

Point #3 Appeal to public opinion.

Point #4 Assuming just because the author feels a certain way about something, everyone else will feel the same way as well.

Please elaborate on why you think I have no clue on what I'm talking about.

It's not a simple matter of porn being bad or whatever.  The thing is, for many people it is physically impossible not to look at porn for extended periods of time, particularly in this day and age in which the Internet is not only readily available and widely used but is more and more becoming a necessity.  And it goes without saying that the odds of an individual browsing the Internet regularly over any significant period of time and not encountering links to a pornographic website are virtually zero.  And for the individuals who are inclined to become addicted, just telling them what they're doing is wrong doesn't help.

It's an annoying thing to get tangled up in, yes, but better to live your life okay with who you are (thus not limiting yourself and your opportunities, thus enabling you to become a more useful person overall) than to go through it hating yourself for shortcomings that quite frankly you cannot overcome.

Humans are not bad people.  We are not wretched, sinful beings worthy only of hatred and scorn.  We have tendencies that we'd be better off without, sure, but to say that we aren't meant to be what we are, to despise our own nature, implies that our Creator made a mistake, which certainly isn't the case.  It is this free-thinking Christian's opinion that to despise one's own human nature is nothing short of blasphemy against the One who gave it to him.

@too_pretty_to_die@xanga - exactly =)

I should probably preface this with the I'm not really Christian, I'm sort of slowly re-becoming Christian, it's a long story. 

I think there's a deeper problem with porn than mental infidelity.  Though, I can understand how some may feel that way, and you really can't take issue with someone having an emotional response to an emotionally charged issue.  I struggle with watching porn myself.

The issue with porn, for me at least, is the injustice of it.  The transformation of humans into products.  There is a lot of back-door sleaze going on with porn, and in reality it's just a hairsbreadth away (if even at all distinguishable) from prostitution.  There is an underlying theme in much of porn that it's okay to treat people as objects.  It's subjugation, and watching it solidifies in the mind the notion of the acceptability of this fact.  To pay for it, is to put money in the hands of those who treat their fellows as property to be bartered.