I'm not a Christian, but I waited till I was married to have sex, though I'll admit we got married fast.  We dated for 6 months and were engaged for 9 months.  We didn't get married just so we could have sex though, we knew it was right.

My Academy teacher got married straight out of high school to get married for the sex. She's gone through two divorces and is now happily married in the end.

@bukeshow@xanga - Divorce is a possiblilty no matter what age you get  married or how long you've been together.I've met people who have gotten married at 18 and have been together for years and are happy,and I've met people who waited til they were older and dated for longer and ended up  divorced.It just depends on the couple and the ability to work things out and how much they really love each other and how far they are willing to go for the other person.My grandparents got married at 18,my cousin at 18,my mom at 20 or 21 and I have more people I know personally or I'm related to that got married at a young age and are still together with that person.So really,age can be a factor,but sometimes it doesn't matter.It depends on the people and I believe I will spend the rest of my life with him.There is not a doubt in my mind,he is the only guy I have ever been able to think of in that way.I knew him before we even started dating,we were best friends and we know everything about each other and are willing to do whatever it takes to stay together.So to say we will end up divorced at 25 is a possibility,but it's a risk we are both willing to take.Like I said before that is a risk you have to take no matter what age or how long you've been together.That's a part of marriage,it's a commitment that requires a lot of trust,perserverance,love,tolerance and compassion.

@rosegrave@xanga - I thought I was in love to when I was your age I found out later that I really didn't know what love was. I met someone else and loved her more than the girl I thought I loved with all my heart. I'm just saying the odds are completely against you but good luck.

@bukeshow@xanga - that is an unfair generalization..... I got married at 18 (exactly a week after I turned 18)..... my marriage is rocky, we have our hard times- but who doesn't?  We have been through a lot in 4.5 years of marriage- and we are still going strong.  I'm not quite 25 but I doubt that we will be divorced by then.  We have worked our way through a lot of stuff, I don't know what the heck else could come our way LOL.... of course, things will still happen- but that is meant to say, being through as much as we have, we have a lot of trust in each other and our ability to support each other. We are about to have our second child, and yes we are young, but I think this will be the biggest test of our relationship (as we will have 2 under the age of 2), and I accept the challenge. 

like everyone else has said, people can and will get divorced no matter what age they marry.  Each of my parents have been married 3 times.  My dad is currently divorced from his 3rd wife, and my mom is still married to her 3rd husband.  And my dad made the mistake of his 3rd wife at almost 50 years old, so yea obviously age doesn't matter- I've already outlasted his 3rd marriage!

I can't tell what will happen in the future, but I have learned from all the people around me- my parents, my husband, my friends- and I can only hope that *if* in the future my husband and I end up deciding to go our separate ways, then we can do it amicably and know that we have had a good 10, 15, or 20 years, ya know?  I won't feel like that my children, or my experiences over the past years have been mistakes and I will be thankful for my husband for giving me all that he has, even if in the future, we are not together anymore.

Yes, it is true. A lot of Christians do get married early for sex.
It is truly sad that we must even bring up the possibility of experimenting about sex before marriage.
Having been in a position where "experimenting" brought just as much guilt as actual sex,
I say no. Sex is not "the line". You may be waaay over the line without ever having sex.
The point is NOT how CLOSE you can get to "the line", it is how faaaaaaaar AWAY you can get from it!

@rosegrave@xanga - thank you but I don't have a girl anymore unfortunately our love wasn't as strong as I thought. I hope you make it. God bless YOU

@rosegrave@xanga - I think I really just want to be single for life its so much easier. I have absolutely no worries or someone to worry about. I know that sounds crazy but I enjoy the fast lifestyle and a SO just gets in my way. Don't get me wrong I love women I just don't want to love one woman.

@bukeshow@xanga - That's not crazy,I know people who share similar views to that,but for me to spend my life with one person and them know everything about me and accept me for all my flaws and love me with them is easier than to constantly try to impress somebody and when you do fall in love that girl won't get in you're way.She will be a essential part of you like you're heart beat,and you will count every second as a great blessing and even when you're not directly thinking of her she's always there in the back of you're mind.Every thing you do with her will be as comfortable as you're own personality.To know somebody like is simply amazing to me.I love my fiance like that and so much more.I hope whether you want to or not you do find somebody like that.You find somebody wonderful even if it's when you get older.

I think that every time you used the word "Christian" in this post (with the exception of the first), it can be replaced with "you people"/"people of the newer generation". And I believe that the problem is that people are having sex for the wrong reasons. Nobody understands what it is to have sex now. Having sex is not humoring your body because you want something. That's just being greedy. And I think that's why it's so difficult for anyone to stay together these days. They all just want to be secure with someone they find attractive to have sex with them all the time. Maybe not completely consciously (although in many cases it is); a lot of it is cultural conditioning and peoples' true motives are unclear even to themselves. But I've done a lot of analyzing and lots and lots of thinking, and our culture is extremely hypersexual. Sex is everywhere. It's all over the media, in fashion, et c. Standards of beauty are often overlooked as the norm, because they are what moves women and men into the window of being eligible and considered by the opposite gender for sex. For example, if a woman quit shaving, she'd automatically be called a yeti, a "dyke", et c. just because we've been preconditioned to think that women who don't shave are disgusting, abnormal, of some kind of different political persuasion, generally unwanted, et c.

 I mean, there was even that statistic that'd been going around a little while ago that said that some ridiculous percentage of the population weren't virgins/ saving themselves/ whatever you'd like to call it. Someone even went so far as to blog about it and end their blog asking what was "wrong" with the minority that still had their virginity intact.

 At this I got extremely frustrated with the cultural mindset of today. Nothing's wrong with them. They're just people with beliefs, who are probably faithful to their religion or personal beliefs, despite what everyone else around them is doing. I mean, how weak are we? Just because we all experience lust at some point means that we have to go around and satisfy this extremely primitive urge? Are we all a bunch of moronic humping, shaving, acting apes?

 If anything, I think that the small percentage of people who are still virgins just have class and are strong people. I may not be one of them, but I can now honestly say that I am celibate until I want to procreate, and I commend those people for not faltering just because of what was going on around them.

No, I  belive if you are serious about your faith then worldly matters such as that should not be a factor in getting married. 

I feel ya. I'm one of the old maids where I live...

I'll be 24 next month.

The only 2 other single girls older than I am both recently got engaged. The cheese stands alone.