Monday, 01 June 2009

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  • Pass_the_Aura@xanga

    I didn't sign, but I waited. And found true love.

  • CrazySwede@xanga

    Didn't sign the pledge, but I wear my ring every day, and my family and friends know what it stands for.

  • StepHyKu2517___v3v@xanga
  • JJPrint3rd@xanga

    I did not sign anything, but I decided when I was 11 that I was going to wait for marriage, and I did. I wore a simple silver band on my wedding ring finger until one of my best friends gave me his True Love Waits ring when he got married. Then I wore that until I got engaged, and my now hubby wore my TLW ring until our wedding day.
    I waited, and so did my hubby.
    And we pray every day that our children will follow our example.
    But, we will not love them less if they don't.

  • k_stin@xanga

    I signed one in 7th grade!  So far, so good!  Part of it was the fact that I DID sign a pledge (I also took my DARE pledge seriously), but most of it is my commitment to Christ and lots and lots of prayer.

  • Galbsadi@xanga

    I never signed such a pledge, although I did intend to keep such, and, for a few years I did.  Starting about a year and a half ago, I stopped having sex, so now I'm going by a modified version.  I intend to not have sex before marriage 'again.'

  • dreadfully__yours@xanga

    Yeah, online, in middle school. I'm still a virgin, but I don't really plan on keeping it. I'm not going to say I didn't know what I was doing, but your view of the world and life and things varies greatly at different ages. I guess I kind of think it's propaganda to pressure little kids into signing things like that, when they don't see the entire spectrum.

  • mikenpeg@xanga

    My husband and I were both virgins  when we married, and we signed nothing. I think making a vow like that may be a good idea, but in the end, it's not a ring or a piece of paper that will keep you from breaking your vow, it's what is within you. Same as getting married; the marriage certificate will not ensure the success of a  marriage, it's what you do as a person that determines the outcome. 

  • gabrielpeter@xanga

    Yup.  Still keeping the pledge 12 years later *haha*.

  • gabrielpeter@xanga

    @mikenpeg@xanga - I wholeheartedly agree.  I'm not a virgin because I signed a piece of paper.  In fact, I don't think about it unless I'm asked.  It's the commitment I've made within my heart that holds me to it.

  • XxRainyxMondayxX@xanga

    i was forced into signing one by my church in the sixth grade.
    i don't plan on keeping it.

  • MommyGEM_RN@xanga

    Yup, I gladly signed it, and I'm glad I kept to it!

  • NSFWChristian@xanga

    Yes, I signed one.

    And yes, I kept my pledge.  My first time having sex was with my wife on my wedding ni--actually, the morning after my wedding night.  (We were too tired the night of.)

  • horse_jumping_is_so_fun@xanga

    i didnt sign any thing but im going to stay pure


    and for the guys that signed it and is keeping thats great 


    because honestly i thought  must guys are all werid oos and that


    it is going to be hard  to find that some one who will stay ture to you and not cheat on u  

  • they_call_me_steffyjean@xanga
  • mikenpeg@xanga

    @gabrielpeter@xanga - It's awesome to see other young people committing to that...You will be blessed. My husband and I have never regretted holding out for each other. We have been married for three years, and our intimacy is as alive and frequent as on the honeymoon, only lots better. I'm not saying that purity prior to marriage is the only way to achieve that kind of relationship, and I believe even couples who did not wait can have great intimacy.I think our trust level is greatly increased, though, because if my husband respected me enough not to make sexual advances before our marriage, I trust him to respect me enough not to make advances toward other women.  But, whatever you do, don't listen to the people who say you have to sleep with each other in order to know if you're compatible. If you marry a normal female you're in love with, you're sexually compatible. Period.  

  • Mrsbear7@xanga

    Probably when I was 12 or so.  I don't remember an official signing but I had my own ring and made that commitment.  Yes, I did wait for my wedding night.  My husband had not.  We struggled with physical sin but God gave us the grace to not have sex til marriage.

  • AmistadBaby@xanga

    I haven't signed anything, but I'm considering it for the near future, and buying a ring. I'm still a virgin, but at 14, I'm sure that doesn't mean as much.

  • LaBellaMorena@datingish

    Yes and yes! I also got a TLW ring for my birthday from my best friend, who has the same one. To this day, we both still wear them and keep our promise.

  • alexandera_starcrossed@xanga

    I was brough up as a Catholic until the age of about 8. From then on, my dad basically forbid from me from any religious activities. I 'dabbled' with a couple of religions, before finding my way back to God. In this time, I lost my virginity. But I wasn't promiscuous. I had casual sex in november and again in january. But it was after the latter that I decided I was going to turn my life around and start respecting myself and my body. I'm not going to have sex, or partake in sexual 'activities' until I'm married.
    I know that I'm not a virgin, but this is the best that I can do in the circumstances.

  • mikenpeg@xanga

    @alexandera_starcrossed@xanga - Don't ever let anyone tell you that's not good enough. In fact, I respect someone in your position as much as someone who took the vow at a young age. It proves you learn from mistakes, plus, I think it shows almost greater strength- it would seem harder to me to abstain if you've already had sex than if you never had.
     Emerson has a quote that is my favorite: "What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us." If we have Christ within us, our past is as nothing, and our future looks less daunting.

  • music_of_the_heart08@xanga

    Well for Sex Ed in middle school they had us all sign the card. I already wanted to wait, so it wasn't a big deal. I'm doing it for God, not because of the card. I'm 19 and still a virgin. It's hard, and I've been involved in lots of temptation and have come close, but I have realigned my priorities and the Lord gives me the strength to not give in. The only physical relationship that I have with my boyfriend is kissing, and I'm weary of make-out sessions, because they always will want to lead you to more. Best of luck to anyone who chooses to make this committment. =). It's not easy, but always worth it.

  • scrambledmegzntoast@hardestlevel

    I have never signed a pledge nor have I been asked to nor do I even think it is necessary. I have made that pledge to God. I somehow don't think a piece of paper carries any more weight than that.

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  • china_doll26@xanga

    i keep on pledge for the Lord.. :) 

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