by miss magnolia
Something that is difficult for me to understand about a lot of Christian guys is they feel the need or the right to date around. They get to know (flirt) with multiple females, keeping their options open, until they figure out which one they want to date. All the while the girls are feeling like they are special and the only one getting the attention. A lot of times these types of "Christian daters" use the excuse that it's "God's calling" and "God's plan for them" to not settle down yet, but be friends with many girls at one time.
Let's be honest: this is a complete cop-out for Christian guys who just want to get to know many girls while making it seem like it's their calling.
I know a guy who does this. He's big into missions work and wants a girl to be his wife, and they can do missions work together. However, in the search for a wife, he feels the need or right to talk to more than one girl at one time. He claims he's not leading them on because he just "wants to get to know them" as friends.
I'm sorry, but you can't flirt with a girl continuously and not expect her to feel like you are actually into her. And then you pull out the God card and say, "I don't think God wants us to be together." If you were listening to God in the first place, things wouldn't be this way.
Why do a lot of Christian guys use God to talk to many girls?