Tuesday, 24 March 2009
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QOTD: Do You Struggle with Internet Pornography?
by revelife crewA very heavy topic, but one that needs to be exposed to light, not kept in secret. Feel free to log out and post anonymously if you prefer.
Have you struggled or do you struggle now with viewing internet pornography?
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No, I definitely enjoy it =D
yes...yes I do and its something i need to work on.
nope. but that's probably because i've never understood the point in porn. i've watched a few with friends, but all we could manage to do was laugh and comment on how hilarious some of it is.
that being said, i don't think that porn is a huge deal, as long as it's not replacing your sex life with your SO.
Not a bit; I'm fine with my porn habits.
Nope. I'd rather DO something, than WATCH it.
YES I USED TO BE. "WHAT DOES LIGHT HAVE TO DO WITH DARKNESS?"
This is something I've actually been struggling with lately. I know God is going to see me through this, but I'm not going to lie, it's hard!
As I was scrolling down I saw probably 3 or 4 of the 7 previous comments that said they feel that pornography is ok and not a big deal!!
Do I need to remind people that the Lord Jesus himself considered that even lusting after someone with your heart is the exact same as sleeping with them? Do you have to be reminded of how in almost every letter Paul wrote he reprimanded them for their sexual perversions? Have you not read that that the "will of God is that you abstain from Sexual Immorality"?
It took me a long time to overcome that struggle- never once did I consider it ok though. Finally the Lord brought me out of that sin and has provided me the strength to stay out of it.
If you are one struggling with porn, and you actually understand the utter sinfulness of it, then don't try to defeat it by yourself, it's pointless. The Lord, prayer, seeking him first and foremost, and a good brother/sister (depending on your sex) in Christ are the tools you need to have to get out of it.
Yes I do.
And it worries me. I worry what the impact will be on my future marriage, on my ability to be sexually satisfied with one woman for the rest of my life, who after twenty years won't look like a porn star. I worry about the standards of "perfection" my struggle has engendered.
I worry about what sort of synaptic associations I've allowed myself to set up in my mind. I'm worried about the way I've come to view attractive women, because of the habitual way I view women on those sites--as objects to be used.
I'm worried that my addiction won't die away but will continue, on and on. I'm worried that it will hurt the ones that I love. I have nightmares about my significant other catching me while I'm looking at a porn site. And yet I can't seem to stop myself from typing in that URL when I'm frustrated, tired, or bored.
I worry about the Law of Diminishing Returns as regards pornography. Already I find myself becoming dissatisfied with "tame" porn, as the regular stuff ceases to satisfy me. As my porn pursuits take a darker turn, so do my fantasies. What are the implications for my future sex life?
I'm worried about the self-centered, self-pleasing attitude towards sex that porn creates in its viewers.
I'm worried about the abuse and the degradation of women that I've already been complicit in by my support of the porn industry.
I am confident in Jesus and believe that he has the power to break all chains of bondage. It is myself that I am afraid of, though. Because as much as I know that Jesus offers freedom from such things, and as much as I know that all I have to do is ask and pray and cast it off...
...deep down, I don't want to be free of it.
I used to. Thank God I'm free at last
.
~V
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Don't worry...that title is more of a shocker than a descriptor.
No, I don't have a problem with it. I tried watching some from various sites friends reccomended but it all looked so contrived. Men with penis' the size of a horse who go for ever without an orgasm and women with breasts the size of balloons with a vaginal orifice you can drive a tank through just don't do it for me. I don't know maybe I am just not looking in the right places but what I have seen only made me laugh.
The greater acceptance of sexual immorality in our society is utterly alarming. Not only is pornography degrading, but it can and does destroy relationships, marriages and families.
@deepestrecesses - Sorry but, I just talked to jesus and he said that we as humans are dwelling too much on, reading to deep into what Paul said. He said as long as humans are happy and aren't using porn to replace genuine love it's not a big deal. He is more upset with the church's interpretation of his words and the strict rules it forces on its followers. Rules that merely created with no basis to the bible, the elitism, the conversions, the racism. That's what we were talking about. Sex isn't a struggle. It's human nature. Denying that would be a slap in the face to his dying on the cross.
I don't struggle with it. I enjoy it.
@deepestrecesses - Do we need to remind you that not everyone is Christian? Suck it up. =]
I don't personally watch porn because I find it boring.
I accept it, not too often though.
"We may, indeed, be sure that perfect chastity – like perfect charity –
will not be attained by any merely human efforts. You must ask for
God’s help. Even when you have done so, it may seem to you for a long
time that no help, or less help than you need, is being given. Never
mind. After each failure, ask forgiveness, pick yourself up, and try
again.
"Very often what God first helps us towards is not the virtue
itself but just this power of always trying again. For however
important chastity (or courage, or truthfulness, or any other virtue)
may be, this process trains us in habits of the soul which are more
important still. It cures our illusions about ourselves and teaches us
to depend on God. We learn, on the one hand, that we cannot trust
ourselves even in our best moments, and, on the other, that we need not
despair even in our worst, for our failures are forgiven.
"The only
fatal thing is to sit down content with anything less than perfection”
--C.S Lewis, Mere Christianity
I struggle with not getting enough porn.
Can I haz moar?
i never had a praoblem with porn on line or any thn like that since been saved but did ave a problem before
god took all away like that since i was saved
m
@Anonymous - stand strong pray and god will deliver u
all things thro god is possible
god bles u m xx
Yes i do because it kills my computer and they send me all kinds of emails. This is why I just resort to the old way and go out and buy the DVDs. But the old way sucks because you get tired of watching the same thing.
I'm not LUSTING after the people in the porn haha! It's the idea, and watching the action. As bad as it sounds the people in it are more like actors or objects than actual people. I mean a thing is a thing is a thing without meaning. I mean they could make it into cartoons and it would still be sexy. But then I would feel even more like a freak. And I wouldn't be lusting after the cartoon haha. I don't lust after my vibrator, or my screwdriver handle. . .it's a means to an end.
@ChrisRusso@xanga - Awesome quote. :)
Recognizing that not everyone who responds to these questions is a Christian, I think a possibly more relevant question is "Could porn be seen as detrimental outside of a Christian perspective?" In other words, fellow Christians, is there more to it than just "God says don't"? Is there a principle or a heart-motive in God's commands for us to be pure in heart, mind, and body? Is there something inherently wrong in porn?
*sits back with some popcorn to watch the fireworks-display of outrage*
~V