Guest post by Stuff Christians Like 
My friend Chris Ames is sermon famous. A few weeks ago Andy Stanley quoted his testimony and mentioned him by first and last name. Andy freaking Stanley! (Is “freaking” a swear? This post just tied in to the one from Tuesday by the way. In the corporate world, we call that “collaborative synergy.”)
That means in one fell swoop at least 20,000 people heard about his testimony, which is about as good as it gets when it comes to a sermon shout out. A sermon shout out is a brief moment when the pastor unexpectedly shines a spotlight made of words on your life. This is like a little gift that the pastor throws from the altar. When you receive it, you can’t help but think, “Thanks buddy. That was nice. I’m sermon famous.” But what you don’t want to happen, what you should fear ever experiencing, is when the pastor does a “Sermon Call Out.”
The difference between the two, a shout out and a call out, is massive. In a shout out, you’re held up as an example of what a good life looks like. In a call out, something you did is used as an illustration of how not to do life. You don’t want to be the call out. If the pastor is telling a before and after story of redemption, you don’t want to be the “before.” But if it happens, if the pastor turns your life into a four part series called, “Big Mistakes Dumb People Make,” the best you can hope for is that he keeps the circle of recognition small. And there are three ways he can do that:
1. The pastor preaches the sermon in a way that only you recognize who it’s about.If you get called out from the pulpit and you’re the only one that recognizes he’s talking about you, that’s not as horrible as it initially feels. Sure, it might sting a little that your life just became sermon fodder, but think about how applicable what he is preaching on is going to be for your life. This is the one sermon in the history of your church going experience where you won’t be able to say, “I’m just not sure how that message applies to my life.” It is your life. That sermon is hand crafted for you. Take notes. Take lots of notes and consider this sermon a gift of the most personal kind.
2. The pastor preaches the sermon in a way that all your close friends know he’s talking about you.This one is going to burn a little because your closest friends know that it’s you that has the yacht addiction. When the pastor rails on people that have idols and the example he uses is this guy that has a secret marina where he keeps all the yachts that are slowly wrecking his life, they’re going to know it’s you. And for the rest of the sermon you can’t make eye contact with any of your friends, you have to rush out once it’s over and you have to constantly be on the look out for a yacht intervention. Seriously, if anyone invites you to “just catch up over coffee” and they want to have that cup of coffee in their living room on a Friday evening, get ready for a yachtervention. (I couldn’t help myself, I tried. I promise I didn’t want to say “yachtervention” but how often is that pun going to come into my life?)
3. The pastor preaches the sermon in a way that everyone in the congregation knows it’s about you.Low blow. Low blow indeed. This is the worst, especially if the pastor was so lazy he didn’t even attempt to cover up who he is talking about. You’ve got a really distinct yellow car and he said, “The other day while riding around in my friend’s banana colored car.” Or you own a finch farm and he says, “My friend who raises small birds is going through some marital troubles.” Or worst yet, your name is “Burt Larson” and he mentions that his friend “Lurt Barson” is really hitting the Olde English 40s. There’s nothing you can do in this case except yell out “MATTHEW 18! MATTHEW 18!” over and over again. That’s the verse that says you should privately talk with a person one on one if they’re sinning against you and then, if necessary, with a group before you tell the problem to the church. If the pastor hasn’t talked to you about the whole yacht thing before going public with it, he’s broken that command. I mean sure, you’re still going to look like a crazy yacht addict who also apparently has some sort of biblical form of Tourettes, but at that point it’s too late to save face so you might as well go out swinging. Or screaming as it were.
This kind of thing doesn’t happen a lot at my church because it’s so big but I assure you people get called out from the pulpit all the time in some churches.
Have you ever experienced this? Have you ever been on the end of a sermon call out or sermon shout out? Need a yachtervention?
Comments (19)
oh my. my entire life is sermon fodder. my dad is my pastor. thankfully he always asks permission and/or talks to me about stuff he is going to use if it is really personal stuff.
I don't really ever recall that happening, but I did have a preacher come to me in a pew once and put his hands on my forehead and tell me "You will be delivered from this bondage you are under." Being honest, I did not like that. For one, my best friend, who was a loud mouth honestly and gossiped a lot, had told the people in church about my then situation with my husband assaulting me, etc. I just felt like he ran with it, you know! I do not believe they should come to the pew. I believe if God wants to get through to me, he will call me up personally. I guess if my friend hadn't told everyone, it would have been different, but I know that was exactly what happened in that situation, at least I'm sure!
my old pastor is a friend of my parents, so if he mentioned me by name in the sermon he had to give me a dollar (same as his kids). i always forgot to collect by the time his loooonnnggg sermons were over though T_T
i always made sure he didn't know anything bad about me so i wouldn't end up in the sermon in that way LOL
I was at a revival with a friend, and the guy preaching there just "knew" there was something wrong with me. And honestly, there wasn't. He kept trying to get people to come forward to receive their healings and flop around on the floor, and kept standing over me saying "you need to do this too?" And I said "no, I'm fine." He walked away saying "I thought I was fine too." This jerk didn't know me from Eve and he wouldn't leave me alone! I was pissed when it was all over with. I'm not about to fake it just so some evangelist can feel better about himself.
My dad is a pastor, I was mentioned almost every 3 weeks (my two brothers were the other weeks) and then I got married moved 1/2 way across the country and my pastor mentioned my husband and i in front of the whole congregation thankfully it was in a good way.
Hey, this is a great way to lovingly poke fun at a pretty serious topic. Hurts caused by churches can run pretty deeply. Pastor's/overseer's are called to be gentle. I praise the Lord for the pastors who have been in my life.. they are gentle. I know I'm usually not! But wow does that make me happy to have them in my life. Number one has happened a few times in the church I've grown up in. Its a blessing even when it stings.. but like you wrote, only a little. Great read and thanks for sharing.
One of the the big things we discussed in homiletics (preaching) class at when I was in college: don't use people you know as your negative examples without their permission (even if you think no one in the church knows them...you never know!). As humorously pointed out in the article, this is a complete violation of how Jesus taught that sin should be dealt with. Not to mention that it makes the pastor guilty of the sin of gossip. "Prayer requests" are another great way that Christians disguise gossip as "ministering to a fellow Christian." heh-heh...I can just imagine someone jumping up in the middle of prayer meeting and screaming "MATTHEW 18! MATTHEW 18!"
haha my pastor will call you out, but its all in good fun =)
Like "what do you think _______ ?" hahaha usually its one of the youth leaders =) since we're going through a "include the youth" stage =)
hahah my pastor is amazing, and after hearing a testimony of how a youth felt disconnected, immediately when up and apologized to him, and asked the pastoral team, and his family to come up and for the church to pray for him...
My pastors are careful to ask permission before describing anyone's particular situation in a sermon if they go to the church or would be recognizable to people in the congregation. To help him be careful on certain illustrations, he has a deal with his kids that if he mention's any of his children's names in the sermon, they get a dollar for every mention.
In college I had a friend called out by an older (40's) student for not saying hello in the hallways and therefore being a bad example for christian love and brotherhood. It was unexpected and actually totally inaccurate. Kinda fun story in the long version though.
I forgot to mention it was in their homiletic class.
it wasn't so much a shout out or call out but the use of my name in a theoretical situation... sort of a joke at my expense (not unlike at a comedy club lol)
funny post. So true! a few years back I had a pastor/former teacher of mine use me as the sole subject for a whole sermon to the youth of my parents' church, so my mother tells me. I had gone away to college & came home to visit a few mo.s later - only to find all the youth there weeping & praying over my sins! apparently there were rumors (that's all they were) going around about me & that "pastor" had jumped on them - dubbed me a Prodigal in fact. ironically enough, I had a measure of respect for him then & often prayed for the welfare of his family & stuff. the whole thing was so ludicrous, I laughed - & then I got mad. Luckily the idea of Mat.18 did come to mind, so I told him how it was - without an entire congregation watching - lol:)
My pastor does not do "call outs" at all, but shout outs, which is kind of a cool thing. My pastor has given me shout outs quite a few times, and it makes me feel good about my position at church, however sometimes I feel embarrassed, not because of what she said but because she said it. I feel weird and overly modest about some things I suppose! I don't know how to explain it, lol.
For instances:
"We need to set an example for the confirmands being confirmed. (My name) has really been an awesome youth and the only one to stick around and participate after confirmation."
"It's nice to hear opinions and a youth perspective about the life of our church from our younger folk, like (my Name) shared."
The ones that are anonymous, but only the pastor and yourself know who is being spoken about are the best, really. It's one of those instances where you see your pastor winking at you. Just one of those smile-to-yourself sort of ordeals.
"Someone in the congregation shared with me an letter and a set of related reflection questions I would like to share with you and have you think about ..."
"I've learned something really humbling from a youth this week, after having a conversation ..."
These are fun cause it's like you hear them talking about it.. and then you're like ... oh wait, is that me? Yeah .. it is.
I think it helps sermons be more personable and help the congregation to be connected, if that makes sense. However, the call outs are not! Those generally do not happen in my church, which is a good thing.
I enjoyed this post. I never realized that people thought about this sort of thing like I do. Haha.
hehe... yacht intervention.
nice
Just last week, Pastor mentioned me (by name) in his sermon, but it was only as an example of something he'd done in church one Sunday. That sounds confusing....what I'm trying to say is that he had me come up once as an illustration for something, and he mentioned it this week.
I have to say, I laughed reading your post, it's great, but very funny!
If I was ever in a church where they did #3, I would walk out.
Thanking God that that is not numbered among my painful church experiences.
this happened last week in my church - not in a good way "get it together or leave" - I left! And because it's not the first time, I'm considering leaving for good. Seems like Matthew 18 hasn't been read.
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إتفاق |
تاخر الحمل |