Thursday, 22 January 2009
Guest post by jmallory
I grew up with the mindset, "Spare the rod, spoil the child." My dad raised me this way. If I did something bad, I got paddled by his hands or his belt. When I was living in Arizona, if I did something wrong around my grandparents, my grandpa would paddle me with his belt and my grandma would make me cut a switch off the tree in the back yard. And the switch always hurt the worst because it was nice and flimsy.
I've always been one to back up "spanking" because I know I was spanked when I was a kid and I turned out fine. But as of late, I've been thinking about spanking and living a nonviolent lifestyle. When I have kids of my own one day, I want to teach them nonviolence and nonviolent methods to live their lives and handle altercations and disagreements. I am starting to think that spanking would violate these principles and turn me into a huge hypocrite.
I know there are some Bible verses in the Old Testament that support spanking. All of which, I believe, are in Proverbs. But I also believe that the New Testament is clear when it comes to teaching nonviolence. So I think I am starting to believe that spanking may not be good for a child. I've also been to church services where the pastor would teach about raising children, condoning spanking, of course if the child is bad. But these pastors always said that when you do, never use your hand because you don't want your child to associate that hand that is supposed to hold and love the child, with pain. I don't know though... it still doesn't seem right.What are your thoughts on spanking?