by mr oakI was reading
this movie review on Revelife of
Fireproof starring Kirk Cameron.
First of all, yes – that Kirk Cameron – a.k.a. Mike Seaver a.k.a. Boner's best friend. If you have no idea what I'm talking about – you make me feel super old.
This part of the review actually struck me the most:
Kirk won't kiss anyone except his real-life wife Chelsea Noble. So, the producers dressed her like the actress and shot the scene in silhouette. I just saw the movie, and I promise, you can't tell. It's a very sweet, tender scene....
First of all - wow. At first I thought this was ridiculous, but then I thought about it again. It's kinda romantic in a way - the fact that some dude only wanted to kiss his wife. If I was a actor, would there be an actress I would rather kiss over my wife? I really couldn't think of one - love is funny like that.
Any event, I just thought that was cool. Go, Mike Seaver! (a.k.a. Boner's best friend)
If you were a married actor/actress, would you mind kissing someone other than your spouse on-camera?
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Comments (60)
I wouldn't feel comfortable at all kissing anyone but my husband - but then I have no aspirations to be an actress.
and it is very very sweet - and I couldn't tell during the movie...
I think it is great to kiss only your spouse. I think kissing someone else is cheating even if you are getting paid for it
Thanks for referencing my review :)
I really respect Kirk for his stance on this. I wouldn't condemn another Christian actor (like Jim Caviezel, for instance) who took a different stance, because I think it's a matter of conscience. However, I totally respect the fact that Kirk follows the convictions that God has given him and that he is unashamed to do so.
If I were an actress? I don't know for sure, since I'm not married and I don't know what it's like. I can't imagine feeling too good about kissing anyone other than my spouse after I was married, acting or not. I'd probably go with Kirk on this.
I respect Christian actors who make immense sacrifices of money and notoriety in order to follow their Christian convictions.
I wouldn't kiss anyone but my hubby on or off screen. I totally respect Kirk Cameron for coming forward and saying this. That is true romance!
I love this stand he took! It would be sad to see a movie about fireproofing ones marriage only to hear later that he ran off with some actress! I am proud of him for taking the stand!
I loved the movie too!!!
I think that's the way it's supposed to work. I think when you are married you are only supposed to kiss that person....
awww, wow, I think that is so sweet! :)
wow, what an amazing role model =)
Personally, me and my wife always comment how awkward it is to see couples getting physical in movies, knowing they are married to other people. Even something as simple as a kiss, is something I want to keep between my wife and me. I respect the guy for standing up to the entire way Hollywood does everything.
I read about that before I went to see the movie! I think that is so neat. The scene was beautiful.
If I were married and were an actress, I wouldn't want to do any kissing scenes with another actor.
I think as an actor, one should act like the character one is portraying.
I think it's admirable that he took that stance. And that it was made to work.
I heard about this on the way to work this morning and couldn't help
but smile. I hope the man that I marry could have such commitment to
me. I grew up watching Growing Pains. I think this must be the sweetest
thing I have heard in a long while. You can keep your integrity, and
moral even in the entertainment industry. I am surprised this hasn't
received more attention. (From my blog)
one of the reason's i won't watch movies with kissing in it is because it is adultery or leads to fornication, the Bible is very clear, i'm glad he took that stance, i know his wife plays in alot of other movies that has, although didn't his wife kiss the polit on Left behind movies, can't remember anyone know?
I think it's admirable that he did that, but not every film can be shot with a kissing scene in silhouette. If you're an actress/actor and you need to kiss someone, maybe just talk to your spouse. If they're uncomfortable with it, there's not much you can't do with all that money. You can work something out. However if they're okay with it, obviously you should play the role you're being paid to play.
It all depends on the relationship of the two people, is the basis of what I'm saying. I should hope your relationship is comfortable enough to the point that you don't mind them sharing a kiss with someone for a film. You should know that they're loyal to you, and only you, and nothing can get in between that. If you don't feel that comfortable with your partner, then maybe the relationship isn't all that you think it is.
Holy crap, he still has a career?!
Wow, that's why I would never date an actress. That's cool that he won't kiss anyone else. :)
I totally and completely agree with his decision! I'd make the same choice! Kirk isn't the only person to make that sort of choice out there.
There was a movie, can't remember the name, that came out in the early 90s, I think. Pure Country, with George Strait. There's a romantic thing to it, but no kissing. In that particular movie, there was a dramatic "hug" where he hugged the actress, but no kiss.
So many congratulations to Kirk for taking his stand. With all the moral decay in Hollywood, it's a great blessing to see that Christian men are still men.
@HeartOfPandora@xanga - "If you don't feel that comfortable with your partner, then maybe the relationship isn't all that you think it is."
It has nothing to do with being "comfortable with your partner."
The issue is that he loves his wife... and she is the only woman he wants to kiss. It's not about comfort, conscience, or emotions.
He has made a choice to only kiss the woman he married. It's a noble, strong, and difficult decision to make in our current society. I doubt when the kissing scene came up in the script that Kirk even considered asking "permission" from his wife. Based on his own moral compass, he likely told them that he wouldn't even consider it, and from there, they worked out a solution.
@ROZ_711@xanga - What I said had nothing to do with the actor in question.
Kissing someone who isn't his wife could be an area of temptation for him. He's probably just guarding himself.
It is really awesome that Kirk has stepped up to say, "My wife comes FIRST. And NOTHING will come before her, save but God." While I might agree that if kissing someone other than your spouse is "just part of the job", we HAVE to look at the fact that a kiss is still a POWERFUL thing, or while else would it be in so many movies??? Kirk recognizes this. Even though his wife is sure to understand this, no matter how strong their marriage is, a feeling of jealousy is possible to pop up...and Satan will use that. The reason is because anything from holding hands to kissing to sex is something sacred. It goes back to the orginal design of marriage. Understanding a movie scene is one thing, but it doesn't mean that that sense of "betrayal" (and NO, I'm not saying any actor(ess) who kisses a fellow actor(ess) is in jeapordy of committing sin like that) won't rear its ugly head. The point is that Kirk and his wife made an exclusive bond to each other. And they are NOT going to let anything get in the way of that. It sort of goes along the lines of good intentions still leading to hell. An innocent kiss for a movie doesn't mean that some kind of harm won't occur. Kirk is being a man: he's protecting his wife's heart.
Kirk is a warrior, a knight. Exactly as God created all men to be.
@eclipse_the_dawn@xanga - Yup. Check out the movies "Left Behind" & "Left Behind II: Tribulation Force". I am unaware of anything else he's done recently. (His sister, Candice, from "Full House" TV fame also has starred in a new movie along-side country singer/star Randy Travis, but I forget the name of the movie.)
@ROZ_711@xanga - I saw that movie! :D It was awesome! George Straight did an amazing job and proved that hip-hop/rappers aren't the only ones who can make the music-to-movie translation! (Not that there was ever a debate about it that I was aware of.) There was a more recent movie that starred Toby Keith. It wasn't bad, but I did feel sorta disapointed about parts of it. And in other cases, it was great...especially about the dad who left his daughter behind coming back and making amends. Still, "Pure Country" was a whole lot better.
I think it's totally sweet. I have a problem watching movies where I know the person is married, and there they are kissing someone else...I know I wouldn't want to watch my husband kiss anyone else (especially on the big screen)
It's different if the actor is single and not dating anyone, but I feel once you are in a relationship, you should stay loyal to that person.
It's good to see that there is at least one person in the world that won't change his beliefs just because he's getting paid to do so.
That is the kind of man you want to be married to - knowing that he won't do anything to disrespect you.