Guest blog submitted by jmalloryI love Scrubs. It has to be my favorite TV show of all time. I feel like I can relate to some of the characters and the love that J.D. and Turk hold for each other: "guy love".
Guy love is something special. It is a love that only two men can have for each other, it is strictly platonic, and nothing – no woman, food, activity, job – can come between it.
I wish all love could come like this. It doesn't take much work. However, this post is about romantic love. The love that tends to make or break lives.
It is hard to love somebody romantically. It takes work. Sometimes this love hides its face behind lust. Sometimes this love turns into an idol and no matter how a person treats you, you want that love so badly that you will allow that person to treat you as if you were the scum of the earth.
I tend to be attracted to girls who would push me around. Maybe I like the attitude. Maybe it is just the fact that this is how the girl I loved treated me for 5 years and I knew of nothing else but that.
I'm really not ready for a relationship. I know what love can do to a person. It's dangerous. But I will know when I am ready. And that person that I am with is not going to regret a moment with me. :)
Do you think friendship love is easier to maintain than romantic love?
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sometimes. people in relationships are more needy, and prone to stay no matter what
JD and Turk remind me of Jonathan and David
yes. sex/lust just complicates things (see: JD&Elliott). all relationships have to be symbiotic to survive. you can talk about trust, love, loyalty or whatever, but if it's no longer symbiotic, you can bet that the end is near.
i love Scrubs too. Turk and JD's manlove? awesome.
"A surgeon and a doc... above.... it.... all!"
I've not had the joys of experiencing romantic love yet, so I really couldn't say. I do know that a strong and loving friendship can be a pretty powerful thing. I have my own personal life examples, but remember the friendship of Jonathan and David? Jonathan risks his father (King Saul)'s wrath to save David, his best friend. That's a powerful friendship love there.
@hubbaduh@xanga - lol we're on the same brainwave!
I just love this show! And yes, I think the "Guy Love" is a fabulous thing, because they can talk to each other, even when it's saying something hard, and even when it takes time to figure out what even can be said.
ah, scrubs. i`ve never really watched it, though. maybe one episode. i crave the office. (:
ps. i`m so glad there`s a christian blog on xanga ! whee .
Scrubs is awesome.
Love is difficult :P
Ahhh, guy love. I wish it was as simple for us girls.
It's funny you did this post. I just visited my parents house today and my boyfriend of a year and I just broke up a couple of days ago. One of the things I did at my parents' house was watch Scrubs for comfort. I started watching Scrubs when I started stabilizing after years of dealing with depression cycles and PTSD. I used Scrubs to teach me what's normal to think the way foreigners will watch American shows to learn English. One of the things I used to watch Scrubs for was because I was completely platonically in love with this guy but bad memories caused me to fear the male body and I had been anti-social for so long that I didn't know how to let someone in my life and I just didn't know what to do. I decided to take a chance and I asked him out and a year later...we broke up because our relationship was a lot more complicated than our friendship and his hostile defense mechanisms he developed when he was in foster care triggered my hostile defense mechanisms. What I've learned from this experience is that when someone starts to push you away because they're afraid of getting to close to someone, you shouldn't push back. It's best to walk away. Luckily, he broke up with me and we decided to preserve our friendship.
Interesting that this post basically echoes the kind of love that David and Jonathan had for each other, insomuch that they made a covenant, and David treated Jonathan's children and grandchildren like his own family, reserving a place at his royal table for Jonathan's son, Mephibosheth, and grandson, Mica.
As far as friendship love being easier or harder to maintain, possibly, but then again, possibly not. I'm not around my friends every day, but my wife is always with me, and we tend to wait for each other when one is out and the other is home...adn there are things I can talk aobut with my wife that I could not and would not ever talk about with my friends....even really, really close friends. Not sure if this answers the question, but, at any rate, there it is....
I've had love interests before. things can get so complex that sometimes you have 330580945 different opinions about what is going on. and then your brain explodes.
I mostly wrote this to say that I have guy love. there are 7 of us guys in our group. most of them are one year younger than me and I met them through my brother who is one year younger. we all grew up together, not since childhood, but through the end of the awkward teenage years into present day when we're grown men. we all know that we are as close as brothers. there is nothing I could tell them that they would think less of me for. in fact they know things I've never been able to tell women. but guy love is good. it's knowing someone else that will do anything for you, that enjoys your company over anyone else's, and who makes you happy to spend time with. it's almost like having a real girlfriend except you can play video games and fart randomly.(safety)
yes, 100% more easy to maintain a friendship then romantic relationship for sure.
awe! how sweet! it's a bro-mance!
and i love the show too. so funny.
have you seen the episode that showcased the "poop" song/musical? i did and nearly choked on part of my food when i saw it. lol
I think they are equally hard. Relationships of any kind take work to maintain.
@Mr_Gnome@xanga - thts awsome .. my brother has some friends like tht & I thank God tht he has them cause sometimes i just don't get my little bro. but he diffently had a bro-mance with this one guy and a lot of people don't get it but they always have each others backs.
@JandJinJapan@xanga -
so true about Jonathan & David they were soul knitted together.
Absolutely friendship is way more easy to maintain than romantic love.
Last spring I broke up with my boyfriend of 1 1/2 years. That was the worst thing ever and I'm still healing.
I've had both though, a good break up (where still...4 years later me and that ex are still friends and still hang out on occasion) and I've had the worst breakup ever where he won't even speak to me if we run into each other around the university.
I'm still in the phase where I tell people who haven't dated or are wanting to date: DON'T DO IT, ITS NOT WORTH IT!! lol
I know one day I'll be ready to "get back out there" but today is not that day
Right now, I'm content with friends. With friends, you can laugh and have a good time and there is no pressure. With a Significant Other, there is the pressure that "You can only be with me" but with friends its "the more the merrier"
So my advice to anyone who will take it....Make as many friends as you can and focus on God....then when the right person comes your way it will all fall into place and you'll be happy
DONT try to force a relationship to happen...it will fail
Just wait on God's timing, don't worry if you're not in a relationship, just enjoy your life until the time is right
@Purplemoon3@xanga - Its an awesome story!!! People forget that they were brothers-in-law....all the more reason for the love between them....
Wow...I agree. Friendship love is the most essential form of love. I don't think you can love romantically without loving a person as a friend as well.
Good job James!
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