Monday, 15 September 2008
I recently read this article about oldschool Christian singer/songer writer Ray Boltz. Boltz. Winner of 3 Dove Awards, he also had a string of 12 No. 1 hits on Christian radio in the 1970s, 80s and 90s. He's probably best known for “Thank You,” a sweet song about a dream in which someone thanks their Sunday school teacher who taught them about Jesus and led them to salvation.
Boltz admitted he is gay:
“It’s hard to say I came out because I didn’t have all the answers. I just admitted what I was struggling with and what I was feeling. It’s hard to go, ‘This is the point where I accepted my sexuality and who I was,’ but I came out to them and shared with them what I’d been going through.”
Continuing to pretend, Boltz says, was no longer an option.
“I’d denied it ever since I was a kid. I became a Christian, I thought that was the way to deal with this and I prayed hard and tried for 30-some years and then at the end, I was just going, ‘I’m still gay. I know I am.’ And I just got to the place where I couldn’t take it anymore … when I was going through all this darkness, I thought, ‘Just end this.’”
The article continues describing his marriage:
His 33-year marriage to ex-wife Carol was, he says, largely a happy one. It produced four children — three daughters and a son who are now between 22 and 32...
He and Carol separated in the summer of 2005 and he moved to Ft. Lauderdale, Fla....He and Carol Boltz remain close (their divorce was finalized early this year). She’s become involved with the gay advocacy group Soulforce but declined, through Boltz, to be interviewed for this story.
This article caught my eye because of the relationship between Boltz and his wife. They were married for 33 years and had four children together. I'm actually curious what his wife must be going through. If I was in a similar situation - what would I do? I feel like she reacted in love by letting her husband go but I can't imagine that it was easy to divorce someone you spent the majority of your life with, the father of your four children. I admire that they remain close but I don't think I would be able to do the same.
What would you do?