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I've seen all kinds of things popping up on Christian blogs about women and bikinis, and how Christian women should not wear them because "it would cause our brothers in Christ to stumble". I'm sorry, I am a Christian woman, and this is really bothering me. Why, do you ask? It is not because I oppose modesty, nor do I think girls should walk around with everything hanging out.
It's because this is just the old Adam cop-out. "It's the woman's fault I stumbled, God. It was her, not me. If she hadn't worn that, I would not have lusted." Hm, sounds very much like that scene in the Garden of Eden, does it not?
Men have a duty to look after their own heart. They must also understand that not all of us women are foul temptresses seeking to make them stumble. And how come it is always about the woman making that man stray? What about all those guys who work on their pecs and abs to impress the ladies? Those men are not told to cover up. Instead, their bodies are celebrated, and if the woman lusts or stumbles because of it, no blame is placed on the man. The woman was just sinful, that's all.
Am I the only one who thinks this is totally unfair? The Bible even says that woman is the glory of man. Eve was the very last thing God created. She was a perfect finish to a perfect creation. Then why is it that Christian, Jewish, and Muslim women are taught that they should be ashamed of their bodies and that their bodies are only tools of the devil, designed only to make man stumble? Why is celebrating our God-given beauty a sin? God would have made us detestable to look at if our bodies were meant to be so. But the woman was made to be pleasing to the eye. That is the way we were designed. And I'm not being prideful. There is a big difference between being prideful in your looks and just realizing that, as God's creation, you are beautiful.
I dress modestly. I like tank tops but they are always thick-strapped with acceptable necklines. I don't even wear shorts in the summer. I always wear jeans. But my body is not shaped like a bag of potatoes so I'm not going to wear frumpy dumpy lumpy clothes and cover my face and hair so my brothers won't stumble. If a man can't see a woman in a bathing suit or a woman showing just a little skin without "stumbling", then he is a man of very weak character, and he needs to take responsibility for that.
Guys, what standard of modesty do you expect from the girls around you? Girls, do you agree that the way guys present themselves can also cause us to stumble?
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I agree with the woman who wrote this. I am confronted by this theory a lot around where I have moved to and I hate it because where I come from there is no such thing of not being able to wear minis,short shorts,bikinis and what not because it makes a man fall.I was never confronted by this till I moved to this state I now live in.I dress very nicely I wear all of that stuff but in a conservative manner.
I hate it that in some churches that they preach a man can't with hold him self from this type of sin. Making them think they are weak in this area and can't control them selves at all which we all know Isn't true. we are tempted just as easily but women are taught that we have control over this. The main thing here is self control. I could go on and on about this subject but I won't but hopefully you will get what I'm trying to say here.
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How about that some weak men cause women to stumble and cause much grievance and pain to women due to their preoccupation with sexual ideas. The women don't have to 'do' anything. Clearly in some cultures, quoted" a woman's mere face is sinful to a man". Gratification and craving is the real sin. Women need to dress modestly to be protected from them. Men think about what is likely in the mind of other men. So these men make women wear hot black bags to cover themselves entirely, they are not allowed to go out in 'at all' and women are beaten if they disobey in case some other man is aroused. Is that not egregious against God's creation and the specimen as He designed and 'willed' because of man's failing. When one is hungry and pass the grocers displayed wares it is illegal to take and eat, they do not require the grocer to hide his food and blame 'him' for showing what the man 'needed and craved'. God gave us the power to choose under temptation - blame, control and abuse of women is a pastime of men blaming others, exalting and indulging themselves not controlling themselves and shows a true lack of character, strength and faith in God will or themselves. Women 'should be submissive' have been treated as possessions, chattel and servants so that men can control and exploit...how about men sin bringing such misery to women. Most men don't understand that women don't think about sex all the time if at all. Women are looking for committed love when attracting mens interest. Many men are trying to 'get' as many women as possible others think about it, if possible and are just jealous of other men.