Wednesday, 23 July 2008
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Christian Guy 101: On Dating Awesomely - Picking the Right Person
by mr. oak 
Ok - if you're reading this, you want to find out how to date awesomely. That's right - AWESOMELY. If you don't want to find out no problem. Take this post, search for the word Dating and replace it with something you like. So if you like frogs, then you'll be reading a post about FROGS AWESOMELY. See? Still works.Anyways - on dating.
First of all - I am married. I know that completely neuters my expertise on the subject, but I kept good notes in my trapper keeper and I think this will help some people out - at the same time, married people know, that dating should never end. So if you're married, seriously man - take her out on a date. Best part is act like it's your first date...and wear a red bow tie and make your palms sweaty. Guaranteed she'll never forget it. Extra points if you say "You are my density."
Anyways - there are 3 parts to dating. That's right. 3 parts.
1. Picking the right person
2. Asking
3. Going on a date awesomelyThis time around, I'm only going to talk about PICKING THE RIGHT PERSON. Part 2 and part 3 will come later.
So here goes:
Dating AWESOMELY's Guide to Picking the Right Person
For me - prior to dating, I actually came up with the 5 test. This is the idea that there is only 5 things I need to check if someone is right for me. The test might be a little different for you, but you get the drift. Here's mine:
1. The God Test
Does she believe in the same things as you? Let's face it - if you're Christian, your faith in God is probably the most intimate thing in your life. If she doesn't understand that - it might be really hard to have a heart to heart on something that's that important to you.2. The Cartwheel Test
This is simple. Go up to the girl you like and say "Hey, can you do a cartwheel? Show me." This shows that the person is spontaneous enough to actually do it. Even if she tries and can't do it, that's ok - the fact is she tried. Nothing is more awesome than a woman that can do cartwheels.3. The David Hasselhoff's song "Stuck on a Feeling" is the Best Song Ever Test
This is the test where you say the most ridiculous thing ever and see if she'll disagree. (We all know David Hasselhoff's "Jump in My Car" is the best song ever.) But the key is to see if she's confident enough to disagree with you. One of the worst things for me is someone that always agrees with me - then they'll never tell me when I'm wrong. Accountability is key, and in that I need to trust that my mate will rebuke me accordingly.4. The McDonald's Test
Step 1: Flash a bunch of Jackson's in front of her showing you that you can clearly afford any meal. Step 2: Take her to McDonald's. Step 3: See reaction. (edit) ok - this sounds mean, but it really isn't. the idea is to see what she does. it's completely reasonable to be upset - i mean, this is just poor judgement, but at the same time, if she can turn this into a good thing optimistically then you have someone that can make the most of the moment.5. The Kissing Test
Let's face it - she can have all the characteristics of 1-4 and could be your sister (*cue eeeewwws*). So the final test is to see if she's kissable. If you can't imagine kissing her, then maybe it's just not right.Bottomline - I have to agree with Miss Iris in that in the end, no matter what list you make - the person you end up with will always be outside of that list. Also, there's always that saying "the more you wait, is extra time God uses to prepare your mate."
How about you? What would you include in your 5 test?
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Comments (59)
A-Mazing Post.
I'm gonna keep this in mind!!! =)
Would the fact that I've never been able to do a cartwheel forfeit my chances?! lol
And... btw, the McDonalds thing... NOT COOL! That's not even funny...
What if someone prefers courting to dating?
fan-flippin-tastic. :) i really like it. in fact, i might just deploy these in my current relationship! :D.. (maybe.)
Yeah, the McDonalds thing isn't funny or chivalrous at all, and neither is flashing your money in her face, especially if she comes from a home of modest means.
Honestly, I don't have a list. I think dating as a whole is stupid. I would only get romantically involved with someone who is already a close friend, and at that point it's simply spending time together. I require Christian faith and unconditional love in a man. I trust God to do the rest.
I'm married and I still love going on dates with my husband. Even if we only go to our favorite Japanese restaurant and then rent a movie. :) And I never did any dating before I met my husband, but dating was and is a lot of fun. I don't know why so many Christians seem to be against it.
Though the Mcdonalds thing? Probably not a great idea. The girl would take that to mean that she's not worth something better. That doesn't mean you have to take her to a five-star restaurant, but flashing a bunch of money at her and then taking her to McDonald's tells her that you're cheap.
And is that Sean Connery? Sean Connery always goes along with awesome.
@JoeyCagle@xanga - I'm actually kind of curious what the difference between "courting" and "dating" is. I never knew anybody who courted, so I actually really don't know...
@KechiNeko244@xanga - Honestly, I haven't figured out the difference, but apparently there is a difference. Yes, people still court, particularly Christians who are really into Joshua Harris' book "I Kissed Dating Goodbye". I really should learn the difference. While my church is not against dating, there are lots of people here who prefer courting over dating.
i think you can substitute mcdonald's with something else inexpensive like street vendor food or hotdogs (in NY), etc. i think mr. oak's point was to test if his girl was too high-maintenance for him.
can't wait til you get to the ASKing part. that's where i prob have the most complaints about guys :P
My five?
Check for:
1. Integrity!
2. Honesty
3. Rationality
4. Consistency
5. Intelligence (or sense of humor, if I had to write the list for who other people should date)
Hahaha, I love this post.
First, number one is necessary. Second, make sure she stretches before performing the cartwheel. This could result in a trip to the emergency room if she does not. Third, David Hasselhoff? Try Journey's "Don't Stop Believing." Fourth, McDonald’s would not be my choice because it is unhealthy. Our bodies are living temples, people! Fifth, number five is true, as well.
Let's see ... if I had to create a list, I would include:
1. The God Test
2. The Sense of Humor Test (If he does not laugh at least half of my jokes, then he is not worth keeping.)
3. The YouTube/Lolcats Test (If he does not like either, then he is not worth keeping.)
4. The Sports Test (If I like sports more than he does, well then, we are going to have issues.)
5. The Children Test (If he does not want children at all, then I think he is going to have to find another woman!)
In all seriousness, I think one and five are the only true requisites on my list.
Sean Connery's face makes me laugh.
Not exactly sure why...
That list is awesome... and I'm one girl who thinks the McDonald's test is a great idea. :D
Epic post.
LOL Interesting post. :)
I wouldn't pass the McDonald's test. I hate McDonald's with a passion and I haven't eaten there for over a decade.
My five::
Intelligence.
Because any boy who wants to date me had better like video games or books. Otherwise we're not going to mesh very well.
Honesty.
Compassion / kindness.
Sense of humour.
Nerdiness.
They also must be either knowledgeable and / or interested in other cultures. I grew up overseas. I could never see myself dating someone who never wanted to travel or who was incredibly ethnocentric or nationalistic. Blah.
@KechiNeko244@xanga - @JoeyCagle@xanga - To my knowledge, courting is "seeing" someone with the full
intent on marrying them. It's also usually talked about between the
two families first before starting a courtship. The two individuals rarely, if ever, go out by themselves and most of the "dates" compose of the families as well as the couple. It's a very long process (obviously. I mean...you can't decide who you want to marry within a few weeks of knowing someone).
That's what I got from I Kissed Dating Goodbye, from the class I took my junior year that discussed the book (I went to a very religious high school), and from my own observations of people courting instead of dating.
The jist of it is that you only court one person, whereas people who date can have as many girlfriends or boyfriends before marriage or life-long commitment as they want. Personally, I don't court--but I grew up in an environment where it was more acceptable to court someone than to date someone.
Hope that makes sense. : )
I love this post! lol
I <3 McDonalds.
the mcdonalds thing is awesome! you could have all the money in the world, but that doesn't mean that what we do has to be expensive. i'm just fine with micky d's! :)
my 5 tests:
1. the God test-if you don't believe it's goodbye time
2. humor test-if you can't make me laugh/laugh at something stupid i do, then you're out
3. similar interest test-there are certain things that i enjoy a lot and
if we don't have at least some of them in common, then it's not going
to work out
4. awkward silence test-we don't have to have constant prattle, in fact
i'm rather quiet and don't talk a lot at first, but if it's to the
point where the silence is uber-awkward (like i'm staring at a wall trying to find something to say while you stare at the floor), it might be time to move on
5. the talk test-if you talk only about yourself, about me or about only one thing for an extended period (aside from God, which i really enjoy talking about) it's flat-out not going to work
those aren't in any particular order, except for the first one... there's a few other things that determine a relationship for me (i don't do dating, i do relationships. i'm a mix of dating and courtship... i'm looking for the person i'm meant to be with, but it's more relaxed than courtship). i could go on for awhile, actually, but those are/are close to my top five right at this moment.
I love the McDonald's test. I would like to know how exactly you'd flash your big stack of bills without looking like a complete moron though...
Oh..and your song choices....everybody knows that "Everybody Sunshine" is the choice to pick if you're talking about the Hoff. (What a feeling, to sing for freedom around the world!)
I love this post, there is wisdom in this.
AWESOME POST!!! You hit the nail on the head!!!! Infinite eprops!!!!
Actually, out here in Thailand, McDonald's is "High-So" living.
I made a list that I didn't think was that picky: male, Christian, taller than me, weighs more than me.
I've been married for 3 years now, and he only meets two on my list (the first two).