I have a few close friends that are girls and I have no romantic feelings for them, and they have no romantic feelings for me.  And I'm a guy.  So I'm not so sure what you're saying is entirely true.

Maybe generally true, yes.  It's not easy all the time for a guy and a girl to be good friends and not have romantic feelings.  But there are certain girls that I'm good friends with, and we have no romantic feelings for eachother.

So, essentially, you are saying that God created women so I could sleep with them all rather than be friends with them?

I think I'm going back to church, this I can definitely subscribe to!

I disagree, and I think this shows some seriously shallow logic.

All good ideas in this entry, but I do agree with what everyone else is saying, that it certainly is possible to be "just friends" with someone of the opposite gender. It definitely takes more work though, I'd say, but it's worth it, too.

I think being friends with the opposite sex is definitely walking the fine line. I mean, even if you don't think it'll happen, it's always a possibility to fall for someone else. Women were meant to be pursued by men, so I don't buy the "just friends" thing, plus a man's eyes are never satisfied.

oops, ment that it would tend to be hard for close friends of opposite genders to keep things platonic, not that they would tend to stay platonic.

man it's so lame that there is no edit feture, I should get in the habit of not posting untill an hour after I write the comment :(

I say that it would be hard to keep things platonic, what I mean is that it is quite posible that it would be hard. some people just don't click at that level and it's not an issue. also, keep in mind that we (or I at least) am talking only of Very close friends, not just someone you hang out with, even alot, but someone who you confide in habitually.

This upsets me even more than the post about SATC.  Are you saying we're all sex-crazed animals with no compassion or ability to love openly and purely?!  I have several guy friends who are like brothers to me, and I love them dearly--I've gone out for dinner, coffee, movies, stayed in and talked all night with them, the whole shabang, and there is NEVER a pretense that there might be something romantic.  The thought is repulsive--that would ruin such a wonderful relationship.  Any guy I date has to be fine with the fact that I hang out with my guy friends too.  And for my future husband--I do think that there are some things only a spouse should know, but I wouldn't tell my girlfriends those things either! 

People who say there is no way men and women can be friends... I feel bad for you.  You're missing out on something wonderful.  =(

I think that it is possible for guys and girls to be friends, and that this looks differently in different seasons of life.  It can never be exactly the same as same-gender friendships, but if you define a friend as I do - someone you can call anytime of day or night about anything and their first question will be "what can I do to help?", then it is more than possible.  I have a guy friend I'll occasionally have lunch with if nobody else is around and his girlfriend (one of my best friends) is okay with that.  But the closer you get to marriage, the more oposite-gender friendships should become exclusively focused on the person you're going to marry.  But right now, being single, I have several platonic friendships with guys, who are actually my closest friends.

Before you are married, you can have friends who are just guys. but of course, you can't go hang out with those friends after you are married. There are several levels to friendship. You can't be really close friends with any guy other than your husband, but you can still enjoy talking to male friends, whether it's at church, at work, at school... But you can't get too deep.

Back to being single. You both have to agree to keep things platonic. And you personally have to guard your heart against that. You can't let yourself fall in love with your guy friends. 

Of course, a girl will have a tendency to fall in love with her guy friends. That's part of the edenic curse, back in the Garden of Eden:

Genesis 3:16
To the woman he said,
       "I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing;
       with pain you will give birth to children.
       Your desire will be for your husband,
       and he will rule over you." 

It may sound like a good thing to have a desire for your husband, but it's called a curse for a reason! That's why it's so hard for a girl to be single, always wanting that close relationship with a guy. She is always desiring for her husband, whether she knows him or not.

You have to guard your heart as a girl. I can't emphasize how important that is. Realize that these feelings you are developing are part of that curse, and that God will bring your husband to you when the time is right. Once you realize where these feelings are coming from, you can get over them and enjoy friendships! God made Eve for Adam's companionship.

Boys and girls can be platonic friends. How do you think relationships get started? You build a platonic friendship, and then feelings grow. Your spouse is meant to be both a friend and a lover. That's why you got married! You love each other and you are very close friends. In the Song of Solomon, the Lover (Solomon) calls his Beloved "My Sister, my Bride." And no matter how much time you spend hugging and kissing your girlfriend or boyfriend, you're still just going to end up spending a lot of time together just as friends. You are brothers and sisters in Christ, and should love each other as such.

Whatever we believe on the issue, it should be handled with the UTMOST CARE, especially since, even in our best desire to honor God's design, we are fallen and Satan like to trip us up ever-so-gently in our really make us fall. But even if sin isn't a specific issue, when it comes to natural attraction, you can't always call the shots. Some people can be friends for years and then, BOOM!!! They realize they are actually attracted to each other and the rest is a God-bless history. :D

I have a girlfriend and while she trusts me, a good deal due to her past hurts, she is rather uneasy when I talk about female co-workers as being "good friends". Part of it is due to insecurity. She was cheated on by a porn-addicted (ex)husband. And I have had my issues, too. Point is, while I think it IS possible to have a "just friends" friend of the opposite gender, tread carefully, especally if you have a spouce/significant other. And surely!!! Do not go out alone with a friend of the opposite gender. Even if nothing has ever happened nor ever will, don't even give the IDEA of sin (as we're instructed by God in His word). Just be wise. Honor God above all.

I'm a CHristian and I TOTALLY disagree.  I actually don't make good friends with women.  I can't stand being friends with most of them.  Too much drama.  Men are so much easier.  I am a tomboy, completely and totally and some of my best friends are guys.  Women tend not to like me.

And I'm not a young kid either... so this isn't a young mentality speaking.    It's easy to be plutonic friends with the opposite sex. You just have to know your boundaries.

your point seems to marginalize all women into being objects of reproduction..