Wednesday, 09 July 2008

  • Worship is Not a Spectator Sport

    pine by mr pine

    nathon1

    It's 9:45 A.M. on a typical Sunday morning at my church.  Time to start worship.  Is everyone ready?


    panorama

    This was my best attempt at making a panoramic photo of the sanctuary at the start of worship one Sunday.  Is it daylight savings time?  No.  Was there a blizzard last night that dumped 4 feet of snow on the ground?  No, it doesn't snow that much in mid-August in Maryland.  Has the Rapture occurred?  I hope not, considering that's our two pastors in the front row of the first photo.  It's just a typical Sunday morning and everyone is late - as usual. 

    I took the liberty of diagraming the normal Sunday morning distribution of people at the start of service.  And before you say anything, yes, I did take the time to actually draw this out, and, no, it didn't take that long because of a lot of cutting and pasting.  The numbers are notes to identify certain people.

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    1.  Pastor Kenny:  He usually presides over the service.
    2.  Pastor Walter:  Our head pastor, who sits in the front to jump into action at a moment's notice.
    3.  Random Deacon:  Usually if they have an announcement to make, there's a deacon waiting nearby
    4.  Brave Soul(s):  Usually this is Donald or Kyung.  They've taken the bold move of crossing "The Great Divide" (more on this later)
    5.  Random College Student:  This is the seat of choice for college students if they have to make an announcement.
    6.  Praise Team:  Often there are more people ON the stage than in the seats at the start of worship.
    7.  Random New Dating Couple:  It's almost universally true that when a couple starts dating at my church, they start migrating toward the rear of the sanctuary.

    Now, the landscape changes drastically by the time the sermon is ready to start... forty minutes later... where the number of people increase exponentially until we reach about 200. 

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    This series of photos was taken right before the sermon started...  definitely a lot more people, but do you notice anything else rather strange?  This photo was not manipulated in any way.  This is how it looks every Sunday from the pulpit.  Indeed 97% (no exaggeration) of the congregation is sitting beyond the first five rows of the sanctuary.  I have another diagram of the distribution of this below.

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    Beyond the first 4-5 rows of pews at Bethel is a space I call "The Great Divide."  Very few people sit forward of this "no-man's land," and I can't figure out why.  I don't see what's so intimidating about it.  It's not like the teacher is going to call on you more often.  Am I the only one who sees this and thinks that it's kind of ridiculous and really sad?  Am I the only one who is uncomfortable about what this says about our church?

    There have been a few shifts.  The praise team (6) has moved to the bullpen, and is now ready to play something when needed.  PK (1) and PW (2) have obviously switched positions.  The college student (5) has moved back to the masses beyond the Great Divide.  The newly dating couple (7) are now sitting a little further apart as to, again, not draw the stares of the masses.  And toddlers (8) have appeared out of nowhere and are running around the far-right rear of the sanctuary.  Somehow there is a mysterious void at position (9) that is uneven with the same section on the opposite side of the sanctuary.  Maybe because the side opposite of (9) is closer to the fellowship hall and the donuts.  I don't know.

    I have several theories on why people don't sit in the front and are so concentrated in the rear.  The strongest one is this:  Because people come so late, they don't want to draw attention to themselves, so they try to sit behind as many people as possible.  But this doesn't explain why even people who come on time refuse to sit toward the front.  I have several theories about this:

    1.  They're afraid that Pastor Walter might catch them nodding off - I guess this could be true, but 9:45 A.M. is pretty late even for late-risers.  Plus his sermons are pretty rousing and I believe that only the extremely sleep-deprived would actually fall asleep during one of his sermons.

    2.  They're paranoid about people looking at the backs of their heads - but we're Korean... we all look the same from behind.

    3.  People believe that they have to be holy to sit in the front of the church - OR (and this is probably more likely) they don't want to seem to be putting on airs by sitting in the front... that it's somehow more "humble" to sit in the back.  I think this is incredibly stupid and amazingly self-focused.

    4.  They don't want everyone behind them to see their crumpled up one dollar bill in the collection plate... the same amount their parents gave them to put in the collection plate when they were 7 years old.

    5.  People don't feel they belong to this church - I can see this... it's sad.  They don't realize that they can't avoid "belonging" to a church and fully worship God at the same time.

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    6.  The skylight:  It doesn't help that this thing shines a bright beam of light down onto that center front section of seats.  It looks like an interrogation light.

    7.  We've all become spectators instead of worshipers.

    I have news for you.  You can not come to church to just spectate.  Worship is not something you observe.  It's not like supporting a baseball team by attending the home games.  The fact that we don't come to church on time, the fact that we barely worship while we're there, the fact that we gauge if it was a good service by what WE got out of it is a clear indication that we have no fear of the Lord.  You might as well stay at home. To say that "at least we were there" is assuming that we're doing God a favor by crawling in whenever we want.  Picture God in heaven saying, "Oh, look at my good and faithful servant so-and-so!... he finally made it out to worship service!... that was just SO great of him to bless me with that!"  You do not get points for just showing up; in  fact, you don't get points at all.  We worship God because that is what we were created to do, and because God is the only one worthy of our praise.

    Imagine for a moment if you were a visitor to our church and had no idea who God is.  What would the images above tell you?  What kind of witness to the world would this be?  If I were a visitor, I'd think... "this Good News that all these Christians seems so gaga over... it must not really mean that much that they can't even get out of bed early enough to come on time.. they must be quite embarrassed or afraid of it because no one is sitting close enough to hear it... and they must not like their pastor all that much because most of them are not sitting close enough to even throw a tennis ball at him."

    Also, the praise team is not there for people's amusement or entertainment.  Their main purpose is to lead us into worship, regardless of musical preferences. If you have the right spirit, you can have worship revival with a kazoo and trash can lid.  I think when we clap at the end of a rousing song, it's mostly out of habit or acknowledgement that we were entertained.  Rarely is it out of true worshipful response.

    I don't know how or if we can ever change, but we MUST.  Forget about selling all your belongings and going to Africa to save the world.  How can we go across the world if we can't go 20 feet to the front of the sanctuary? How can we give up everything we have if we can't even give up 20 extra minutes of sleep?  How can we say we love the Lord if we mock His worship?

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    I leave you with an image of what the pastor sees while he's delivering the Good News every Sunday.  Those tiny specks in the distance, most of whom just arrived just several minutes prior, that's us.  Are we so ashamed of that Good News?  This is our witness to the world.

     

Comments (44)

  • boyseverywhere@xanga

    Great post and so true!  People so easily forget that going to church is not about them...it is about us worshipping God.  We are pathetic, at best.

  • shanella

    such a hard truth to swallow but a truth nonetheless. Thank you for pointing this out. We dont have this probable when our church is full because it's so small that everyone has to sit in EVERY seat! 

  • vvorldsapart@xanga

    our congregation was pretty notorious for coming in late. my pastor had never noticed because he was always sitting front row, facing the praise team (we sing at the beginning of our service). one time he had walked out of the sanctuary to realize (in shock) about 2/3 of the congregation still outside (after service had started, about 10 minutes in), chatting, drinking coffee and talking. instead of giving the sermon, he dismissed service and challenged us to think about how seriously we take God. i must say (whether it was the right way to do it or not), now, most of the congregation is in the sanctuary by the time our worship starts!

  • EilisAngelos@xanga

    I love to sit in the front row for a couple of reasons:

    I'm not distracted by anyone in front of me. Seriously. I don't want to be wondering what God's doing in that other person's life as they're worshiping. I want to focus on Him alone.

    I like it when I can see the eyes of the pastor and he can see mine. I feel more challenged and engaged that way.

    It's easier to forget that there are other people there who might be watching me. This makes it a much more personal (me and God, that is) experience for me.

    I'm sorry that things are this way in your church. I had to sit in the back row at my church this last Sunday. I hated it. I'm going to make sure I'm there early this next week.

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  • Issie

    I always try to sit as close to the podium as possible when I go to church. I do that so that I can worship freely without worrying about others being more prim and proper while i'm singing and dancing like a madwoman. I also feel more engaged during the sermon. This is not so obvious when I'm in my church because I go to a big church and people love the front seats.


    But I was visiting my friend's church a couple of years ago, and I was the only one who is not a pastor or worship singer (my friend was singing on the worship team that week) in the first 2 rows. So I clearly stood out. Now, I had stayed up the night before doing assignments so I was exhausted. Praise & Worship was fine because I was standing up and doing my madwoman worship thing. But when we sat down for the sermon, I was soooo exhausted. I tried my best to keep my eyes open but I dozed off.


    After the service, the preacher was out shaking hands, and he said to me "Nice to have you visit. You looked like you really love praise and worship." I nearly died of embarassment. It must have looked as if I went to church just to sing and dance. I also felt horrid for dozing off right in front of him. It was very disrespectful.

  • shedinator@xanga

    In my church, we get looked at kind of funny for sitting in the back.  When I have an announcement about Teen Bible Quizzing and I have to walk all the way to the front, or when I am delivering the sermon (about once every 3 months) and my wife stays in our back seats, instead of sitting in the "pastor's spouse" seat (for those of you playing the home game, that's the front row, right next to the aisle, doesn't really matter which side) people tend to cast sideways glances at us.  There really does seem to be an unspoken hierarchy in most churches- the Ministers occupy the first row or two, sitting closest to the aisle in order of importance, the Board members and their spouses/small children tend to be next, then the adult laity, and the back rows/outer edge tend to be where the youth/teens, college students, visitors, and the occasional single adult or family who got to church late sit.  As assistant youth pastor, quiz director, and married with a child, I'm apprently too holy to be sitting in the back with the teens.  When my father was a Deacon at the church we attended until I was about 13, it was a pretty similar arrangement, and we got some pretty similar looks hanging out in the second-to last row.


    If I had to guess, I would say number 3 is really the most likely one, at least based on my own church experience.

  • shedinator@xanga

    @Issie - you know, it's kind of funny that you would say that.  One of my main reasons for sitting in the back is so that I won't be attracting attention whilst I sway barefooted and close-eyed and sing at the top of my lungs.  I always feel like people behind me will stare at me and forget about Jesus .

  • SpoiledLittoBrat@xanga

    when i first came to my church in college, i sat at the front row seat without fail each week. i couldn't understand why people didn't want to sit up front either. but then i remember one of the members of the worship team commenting, well.. praising me. he said he loved the fact that i just worshipped freely, even when no one else is standing/clapping/swaying side to side.

    then it dawned upon me. they're all watching me.

    for some reason, it became more and more uncomfortable for me. from the first row in the front, i eventually migrated to the last row in the back. i don't know why it bothered me so much because my worship and praise is supposed to be between God and I. but the thought of people watching my every movement and notion became suffocating. in the back, i can fall down on my knees, i can cry, i can jump, i can dance. i can abandon all that i am to worship Him.

    i wish i had the courage to do so in the front.

    i wonder sometimes, if moving was right or not. =T

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  • NoHeroesForTomorrow@xanga

    Very sad indeed. "The Great Divide" - just amazing. I never saw something like that before in a church service except when it comes to youth group services. There was a time in my youth group when all the kids who were brave enough to worship stood up all the way to the front in a line. Then there's that HUGE gap. All the really cool kids stood in the back. Sometimes leaders would stay by the door just to "make sure no one leaves during the service." It's funny thinking about it now.

    I can't say I'm any better though. I usually stay in near the back of a church because 1) the middle/front row seats are filled or 2) I'm new, and I don't want to be noticed. Usually it's a combination of both though.

  • sweetygrl23@xanga

    whoah that is a BIG gap between the pastor and the audience. =\

  • ashleyannaka@xanga

    Interesting.

    The majority of my church congregation migrates towards the front. There's something very special about my church, especially the youth. It's very well seen at youth camp in the summer time. People who don't know us and watch us worship are so amazed. I love it.
    I have been to churches like this one described though and it's just...so....different. So, not..."there". It's weird. I have no idea how to "fix" the problem though, other than take out all the pews except the ones in the front!!
    While we migrate towards the front, a lot of people do come in late though, but I personally believe that's due to the construction outside. They've torn up a lot of the streets. But, you could try to leave earlier, but people have their habits. Before they tore up the streets it wasn't quite so empty until 9:45. (It starts at 9:30, but fills up by 9:45--so people aren't missing all that much of worship. We sing first)

  • rachelserine@xanga

    wow.  that is a very large, empty looking sanctuary. :)  i have seven siblings and we always sat in the second to the front row in our small church, even when the kids were little.  crazy, maybe. but it cured my fear of the front! ;)  great observations about being spectators.  thanks for sharing!

  • aN_amAYzInG_storrII@xanga

    my old pastor always said that people who didnt want to grow spiritually always sat in the back. i usually try to sit as close to the front as possible. keep praying for your church, and ask God to send some revival

  • finding_guppy@xanga

    Ooh, a kazoo! Excellent idea!


    I have never heard of practically the whole congregation being late. A couple of people/families sure, but the majority?! That really shocked me!


    It has become a joke, all be it a sad one, at how the first few rows are usually empty at our church. I always thought it was a "Lutheran thing". I like to sit closer to the front, but it's not my husband's favorite spot for some reason.


    I am more concerned with not sitting near certain families with children that I know will distract me from worship. I am all for kids in church, just please don't give them noisy toys! That's a whole other can of worms... I am a new mom myself, so we will see how well my little guy behaves once he is a toddler!


    Looking at your photos, I wonder if the sanctuary is too large for the congregation? How many services are offered that so few people show up? (Or is the poor attendance due to it being summer vacation time?)

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  • DaCrAzYmOnStEr@xanga

    Wow this is a very interestingggg update. I've never been to a church with this kind of problem but we learn something new each time. Has the pastor asked the congregation to move up/address the problem?

  • mrsviolet

    @Issie - @shedinator@xanga - In my last church (well truth be told 2 before now - hey I am on the move what can I say).... I would choose a back corner of the church- not even near a seat, push my pram up their with me and worship alone.... for the exact reasons you two said.

    See we are all so different, yet not wrong!

    x

  • mrsviolet

    My suggestions;

    Rope off the back- so people are forced to the front, having an usher unrope as need demands it.

    A graceful, truthful challenge.

    Prizes under the seats on random weeks for those who are at the front- silly I know, but light hearted enough to get the point across.

  • azn_angel_86@xanga
    Hang in there!

    hmmm....so true. our church has the exact same problem. Our service starts at 9:30 in the morning, and you're meant to get there beforehand and prepare yourself b4 worship starts, right? Well, most ppl manage to rock up 9:15- 9:20...n that's great, but they don't actually GO INTO THE CHAPEL....noooo....they'd rather have a mother's meeting right on 9:30 am...when service starts. Then the chairperson has to say to ever1, can ever1 pls make their way into the chapel? service is about to commence....so annoying.


    all the best with ppl moving up to the front rows...!! hehe.

  • OsuwarInuyasha@xanga

    lol Wow, our church isn't like that, most of the people do sit in certain places, just because thats how' they are used to sitting every time there is church. The pastors sit in the front rows mostly or some of their family does, and the second rows are mostly filled with the worship singers(although I sit in the second or third row). Its all good.

    People do need to realize that worship is about God, praising, glorifying, being joyful and in awe. Stop watching other people and getting distracted(or judging for that matter lol).

  • sunshinegurl31@xanga

    LOL.. how did you get pictures of my church!?.. O.o aha I thought I had the only church that started things late. How sad that this is true for so many. You know I think people might want to sit in the first 5 rows because they are sooo long, so if they come in late then they have walk all the way up to them and then scoot all the way in to take a seat. It maybe rather distracting. Perhaps, you can arrange that the youth be seated in the front middle, that's how it is done at my church and it keeps an eye on the youths so they dont' walk out and  they distract others. ^shrugs


    Lol, perhaps you have the disease that we like to joke about, hmong time. but i guess in this case it's korean time, where things are suppose to start at 9:45 but in reality it starts an hour later.


  • kim@xanga

    Rope off the back sections, start and finish on time, that'll teach 'em a lesson, lol. They'll walk in and 15 minutes later it'll be over! ha!

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