Thursday, 12 June 2008
by mrs. violet
I had been raised in a Christian home. In fact, for the the past 15 years, my parents were part of a ministry that involved two different Bible colleges, pastoring a church, and being cottage parents to Aboriginal children in rural Western Australia.
During my last year of high school, my younger sister ran away with an older woman (read predator) from our church. It was bizzare, hurtful, strange and a life changing event. My dad left the church, my home life nearly fell apart and I found myself questioning God and His people a lot. Needless to say, the next 3 years saw my faith and my world rocked.
Situations like the above do not justify the sins I committed. They may help explain them a little, but at the end of the day, we still need redemption, we still need to come under the power of the cross EVEN when life hits the road and our worlds fall apart.
When I became pregnant during my 3rd year of university, I was left to decide the lesser of two evils. Do I marry the baby's father - who was not a Christian? Or do I raise the child by myself, despite the father wanting to marry me and raise his child? I chose the first option.
Sometimes we like to think the Christian life is a black and white journey. That the Bible's principles are blatantly clear and that our options are as vivid as fire and cloud.
In the nitty gritty of real life, the reality is that often, they are not. Sometimes you need to take the Biblical principles and look at the "Spirit" behind them. In my case I did what Genesis talked about. I left, cleaved and reproduced (or was about to). Spiritually, I was married, and the choice had already been made. The "sin" had already been committed.
I won't know on this side of heaven if I did the right thing. I believe I did do the right thing, or at least the best thing, given my situation. My son had his father close by, and we were not torn apart through separation or blended families. We have gone on to stay married and have another 4 children. Some would argue that it has been close to a "happy ending." Others argue that instead of marrying a non-believer I should have trusted that God would work it all out.
I guess that God will reveal the answers when we're in eternity.
Have you faced spiritual situations in your life where the Bible was not as black and white as you would like it to be?