Monday, 09 June 2008

  • Loneliness

    plumeria by miss plumeria

    I see it everywhere and even in myself.  Loneliness is a fact of life.  Don't get me wrong - I don't feel lonely all the time, but there are times when loneliness hits and I just feel alone.  Do you ever feel that way?  Sometimes I wonder why God created this emotion.  Loneliness leads to depression so why did God create this?  I guess I can play the "why did God create suffering" game, but my faith is stronger than that.  I know God is omniscient and sovereign.  I know there's a reason for everything that exists.  If I had to guess why God created loneliness, I'd say it's because He wants us to long for Him.  Nothing else in this world can fulfill the void that has His name on it.
     
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    I guess I'm always leaving God hanging.  I only long to spend time with Him when I feel lonely, but God tells us that He's searching for us all the time.  The next time I feel lonely, I'm going to go straight to Him.  Forget the TV, internet, and whatever else there is, I'm going to try Him first.  Knowing that someone is waiting for me is a very special feeling, but knowing that the God of the universe is longing for me, means I'm beloved.

    So...do you ever feel lonely?

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Comments (31)

  • longdistanceletters@xanga

    Definitely. I'm working so hard on trying to reconnect with God.
  • MCTCanadian@xanga
    often actually. a lot of people feel lonely out there wondering if people actually do love them and care about them. partly because of our technological advances, people can rely on themselves for survival and not have to rely on others.
  • quiet_strength

    I often do, even when I know better. Sometimes I think we can be surrounded by a group of people and still feel lonely, because while God did create relationships and they are good, there is always going to be a void that only He can fill. 
  • leslieann4908

    I've learned of course that loneliness is a choice. I've only learned that because I've been lonely so, when I'm feeling lonely the first place I go is to God. Then I go to His word. Then I get up and do something about it:)


    Thanks for the reminder:)
  • Suren911@xanga

    Yes, all the time. And quite frankly, my faith in God fades at times. I really feel like there's no one waiting for me. 
  • luvlife87@xanga

    Yes,  I often feel lonely.  You would think for no reason at all, since I have alot of social life & 4 other siblings at home, yet there are times that I still feel very lonely.    i like how you wrote the thing of God letting us be lonely, so that we long for Him.  That is so true!  In my times of deepest loneliness, I can always find comfort in Him!!
  • archangel

    The truth is, I've felt lonely almost every single day for the past two years.

    In the last two years, my Faith has grown by leaps and bounds, out of the isolation I've been in.  I believe that God had to destroy my life as I knew it in order to rebuild a new life for me.  So for the last two years, I've been a hermit with no one but God with me.  There had been weeks where I hadn't spoken a single word to another human being; but each of those days I spent long hours in prayer, spending time with God.

    But it is not God's intention for us to live this way; as much as only God can fill the void within, we ARE created by Him as social creatures with the need to interact with one another in fellowship, sharing our lives with each other and Loving each other as modeled on His Love for us; existing together socially and intimately as a single Body of Christ.

    I've been there, to the far extreme -- where there is nothing in my life but God; spending hours in contemplative prayer and meditation... removing everything in my life but God.  Maybe it's not the answer all-the-time; and maybe it was the answer THEN, but it's not the answer anymore.  This loneliness is killing me and I don't know if I will survive it.
  • Luvlystarr@xanga

    @Audrina_Lake@xanga - I know what you mean (I think) I'm doing that myself


    But I do get lonely at times or feel alone...and it can be so overwhlelming to the point where it hursts & feels unbearable...
  • TheUnmaskedAvenger@xanga

    Growing up, my first friends would always cast me aside. Lonliness made me very sad, lonliness led me to God and He brought me into the light of His love. I still have issues with friends, mostly I don't keep in touch with them if they aren't willing to keep in touch with me and I'm not social any more than I have to be. Jesus has become my best friend, one that never fails me. Every now and then though, I find myself slipping into lonliness for apparently no reason at all.
  • Doubledb@xanga

    I just wrote a whole blog about this!
  • UnworthyofHisgrace@xanga

    To me, as a Christian that is, the loneliness comes from longing to out of this flesh and home with Christ, but there is also loneliness longing for something or someone here on earth. Maybe that loneliness is to teach you to appreciate happiness more! Just a thought!

  • gokellyjo@xanga

    I just blogged about this very thing a few weeks ago.  Since both of my kids have left home - I find myself VERY lonely. 

    I think the emotion (loneliness) is really a longing for our real home - that is Heaven.  We were not created for this world - we were created for an eternal existence.  So nothing in this world (not people, not stuff, not good music, not even our current 'imperfect' relationship with Christ) can fill that longing.  Only when we enter into the perfect union with God our Creator can that longing truly be filled. 

    BTW - thanks for subscribing!  So glad to make new Xanga friends.  I stumbled on your site today and read the blog about being unevenly yoked.  My heart goes out to you.  So - glad our paths have crossed.  Blessings.
  • LifeNeedsProtection@xanga

    Since the death of my parents last year, I feel extremely lonely.  Even when my house is full, I still feel lonely.  But I have tried to accept this loneliness as my way to spend more time with God.  Seems He is the only one who knows me the best.  
  • freaky_cookies06

    I feel so alone a lot at night if I'm the last one to fall asleep. I'm not sure why, but there is just something about it. I hate it, but God is always there, and knowing that helps me.
  • dorothyisinkansas@xanga

    ha. Yes. All I can add to this is that a huge part of loneliness (as you mentioned) is to bring us to the Lord. Well, that isn't always easy....especially for us social creatures, but I feel God has even brought me to a point where He has separated from those I am closest to. Why? Because i was going to them instead of Him. 
  • sbakerwoman

    I feel lonely even in a crowded room, I am trying to find my way back to God but I am having a hard time of it as I live with a man and dont want to be considered a hypocrite so as my struggle goes. My soul cries out in loneliness for the Lord.
  • Momma2babies34@xanga

    Yep.... The whole time I was  reading this subject, it made me think about the time God created Adam. How He must have thought Adam will have anything and everything he wants in the whole world. Then God realized, that Adam will be lonely. So therefore, came along Eve.


    I may be wrong the way I put it, but it has been what I believed growing up. Apparently, God have lonely moments, too. But I douno if that's true or not. Jesus, also have had lonely moments...


    However you have the right point. Whenever we are lonely or we are found to be struggling, it is God's desire that we always REMEMBER HIM. Turn to Him like we would have had if God was a human friend or parent.


    The only difference between God and the humans is the fact He is powerful than anyone in the world.

  • TheSilenceHeals@xanga

    Loneliness -- the antithesis of love. 


    The epitomy of a broken world. 


    My heart bleeds for lonely people as every human being needs to be loved.  I am a loner, but not to a harmful extreme.  It scares me becuz sometimes I feel like I don't need to be loved, but of course, I'm only fooling myself. 


    I think it needs to become a priority of a compassionate human being to combat such destitution.  If you know a lonely person, take action.  Courageous love is a requirement of following Christ.  We need to recognize our own brokenness, stop empathizing, and start companionizing. 


    If not, suicide rates will increase as loneliness kills.


    I pray that every Christian or compassionate human being will have the lonely, the forgotten, and the least of these heavily pressed upon their hearts. 

  • christykim@xanga

    Am I lonely? Hm. good question. I do feel lonely sometimes.

    But... I think that everyone needs to feel lonely, at least once in their lives. It reminds people that no matter how much you share with others, no matter how public you make your life, there will always be a part of you that cannot-- quite-- be shared. And that's a good thing, because everyone needs to have a little corner in themselves that they can stick to, that they can call their own, or else-- their lives will be solely determined by the acts, wishes and thoughts of other people. In other words, they are just containers filled by the thoughts of others-- they are not individuals.

    Also, I agree with you on the point that for us (Christians), we need that loneliness, to remind ourselves of how much we need to reach out to God and that we NEED him, that human society alone cannot fulfill our needs. I think that's why He gave us that emotion. That part is there so that we can share it with Him and Him only.

    You're right. Next time we're lonely, we should go to Him. I've done that a lot and it works all the time =].
  • FreeeVerse@xanga

    I think I've been pushing God away too often.
  • SunnySusan@xanga

    With someone with me constantly(my daughter)I have no time to feel lonley....I would like that feeling sometime
  • Pieces_of_a_Melody@xanga

    Funny, we were just talking about this very thing at my youth group. We do a random "questions" night, where people email in questions and our pastor picks some to answer. One question that kinda stuck with me was this: "If God will never leave us, why do I feel alone sometimes?" I came to the conclusion that the reason we feel alone is not because God has actually left us, but rather that we're not looking for Him to fill whatever feels empty. I know that God is the only one who can fullfill me, but He's not always what I think I want. Sometimes I wish I would realize, in those lonely moments (which I have random cases of) that God is with me and that He is all I need. I wonder why that is so hard to grasp in that moment of depressing lonliness, but so easily seen now?

  • InHisteps

    Excellent post!! 
  • BuNgLes1223@xanga

    so true. One thing I heard this weekend regarding our joy in Christ:

    God is greedy for us to be in love with Him because that is the most delight that we will ever find as human beings and He knows it!

    :)

  • KOdette

    God created us to be always yearning for connection ... this is our built-in desire for Him.  Lonliness can motivate us to reach out to Him but it can also be a motivator to reach out to others in need.

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