Tuesday, 03 June 2008
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Dating Series: GUY VERSION - Part SWEEEEET
by mr. oakWe all know that when it comes to guy stuff, there are sequels. It doesn't matter how bad it is, there will always be sequels in guy land - so here it is. Continuing off Part 1, and based on the wonderful miss plumeria's post - here are some more things I learned...
♣) Just pray with her already - through the tough times, and especially through the good times
First of all - when you pray together you get to hold hands. SWEEET. Second of all - let's really think about this here. Your faith is the most intimate thing in your life - how awesome is it that you can share this with your significant other. But let's back it up here - during the tough times remember my last list - you make mistakes all the time. So why not have the judge and provider in your midst during this time. The best thing is, as you all pray, thoughts of love, comfort, and FORGIVENESS comes in to play - you know God is good for all that. So by inviting God in the relationship in all times - good and bad, it's just filled with all that goodness. Aka - it's like having "The Wolf" from Pulp Fiction right there - all the time....always there to help as long as you do what he says.€) Never mention PMS
It's never that. That's all I'm gonna say about that. I don't want to die.¶) Communicate in the language she understands
As plumeria pointed out - know your person's love language. At the same time, speak the language she understands!!! It's like how some people talk to foreigners who don't understand English - and for some reason in their skull they believe by talking louder, they can understand English better. It sense no makes! So patting her in the butt or punching her in the arm to say "good job" may not be the best choice of encouragement. Here's a big clue - think back to the beginning of your relationship and remember what she did to 'encourage' you - that'll give you a good idea.£) Figure out your conflict resolution....in video games
Ok - let's back up here. This will be one of the more controversial ones. Stop letting her win. What's the point. At the same time, stop pointing at her face and saying "PWN'D" when you crush her too. But part of being honest is just playing like you normally would. She will eventually beat you with her epic button-smashing-as-fast-as-you-can tactic, and trust me - the feeling that she won purely on her own merit is an awesome feeling...for her. Stinks for you cause you lost to a girl, but hey - think about it - of all the girls in the world, which girl would you want to be beaten by? Ok fine - continue saying "PWN'D" cause the day she starts saying that is the greatest day ever. Seriously.♦) Make it a point to help her become a better person
This starts with something very simple. Simply acknowledge what you notice about her - her gifts, her talents...things you find beautiful. I mean, you're attracted to her for a reason right? Don't let a day pass without letting her know. Don't try to change her, cause she's already doing that on her own - but be her number one fan, and number one cheerleader - but don't wear skirts and clap your hands and jump and stuff cause then she'll start to wonder why she's dating you.©) Give each other space and stop calling at 4am
This one is more towards the gals out there - stop calling us guys at 4am and asking "Where are we in the relationship?" or "Tell me again what you felt when you first met me." questions like that. At 4am we were most likely in a heavy dream about punching dragons with our ninja friends, complete with eye gunk, and kickin' breath - we can barely take that question when we're wide awake. Please, stop asking that question - cause all we see in our head is Admiral Ackbar saying "It's a TRAP." But guys - recognize this - if she's doing this, she's into you. Be comforted that she's even thinking about you at 4 in the morning. So don't always grumble - yes you can panic cause you're not sure where the dragons and ninjas went, but these phone calls are a good thing.Ok - that's it for now - and if you're wondering about the picture of sean connery, you're clearly not a guy, he's just so awesome and sweet that he should be on all posts.
Nevertheless, I'm sure I'm missing a bunch of things about dating - but random question - What's the nicest thing you did for your significant other?
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Comments (17)
i don't have much dating experience, but i will tell you, the nicest thing i've done for my future husband is pray for him everyday for the last five years. i would feel so good knowing that my future husband was praying for me even when he didn't know me
nice nice~ Wished you were my boy! ^.~ I'll definitely be the princess you and your ninja friends are fighting dragons to save! =P
Nicest thing? hmm, i bought him his favorite donuts (krispy kreme) in the morning and he went to class while eating them and then I stayed at his place waitin for his class to be over and while waiting, i did his laundry and cleaned his room. I came home with a HUGE smile 'cuz he knows i HATE cleaning and doing laundry.....=D
see what us girls do for you boys?? ^^
Another great post man. Praying with your future spouse/current spouse is the best advice anyone could every get. Until you really start to bring God into your relationship in an intentional way, you are destined for trouble.
On a slightly different note, although the Sean Connery picture was great, the Admiral Ackbar quote made the post, well done.
ahh hahah
Awesome! *claps*
Lol beautiful.... just beautiful!
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i agree with the video game thing. when we play mariokart, there's no holding back to who wins or loses. lots of gloating and pointing in each others' faces, but it's all in good fun and out of love.
Again let me congratulate you on touching on some amazing things here...your writing style laced with humor just pulls people in. You can't help but want to read this (esp. after reading Part Awesome).
The nicest thing for my significant other: During the time God allowed me to be with this wonderful man he was in the hospital a lot. I loved to send him cards and crazy gifts. Well, this guy grew up helping his grandfather on the farm. On the farm he loved to help out with the pigs. He had told me when he got the farm back he wanted to get pigs too. So, I called the hospital giftshop and asked if they had any pigs. They just had one-- the lady did her best to describe it over the phone. All I knew was it was a big that danced to the Chicken dance. Later, I found out it was a very girly pig with a pink tutu and pearls around it's neck. He loved it and we laughed about it. Now that he's gone his mom gave it back to me and it sits proudly on my dresser. It makes me giggle every time I see it.
This is awesome advice...and I love how you used different symbols instead of putting numbers.
As for the question...I don't currently have a significant other...but my last significant other was atheist. It wasn't always easy because my faith is my life...But I didn't push my beliefs on him...no matter how hard I wished he could have something so terrific to live for. I think that's an important aspect..you can't push your beliefs on your significant other..you're with him/her for who they are..not what you want them to become.
@le_meme_chose - props for MarioKart! my best guy friend and I are the same way...It's all fun and games!
I love love love the video game part! We play board games and card games, but I think the same stands. I definitely get to use the PWND! cry, but so does he...=D
I think the nicest thing I ever did for my hubby was making him a yummy cake, just because. It is no joke that one of the ways to a guy's heart is through his stomach!
My boy was in China on a holiday for his birthday. I snuck to his house while he was gone, cleaned the place up, decorated it, and left his present (2 spa vouchers) in the middle of his bed =)
I do not have a significant other at this time; tragically I have not found a woman as imbued with God's live as I am. I have high hopes that my time and my prayer will be heard and a woman shall come to me and understand how dearly I hold God and His only son in my heart.
This post was amazing!
Made me chuckle a few times. You have some great points there!
I don't know the nicest thing I've done for him, but I try to take care of my hubby. Just recently made him his favorite meal & a cheesecake.
I baked him a cake for his birthday? and I can't even bake ^_^
The nicest thing I've done is let him lead in our relationship--God has shown me this is the nicest and best thing I can do for him. Before we began our courtship I was an independent woman (and had been for a long while) so, it was rough at first letting him make decisions--even the tiniest decisions. He DOES ask my opinion and takes it into consideration but ultimately seeks God. I have watched God grow him tremedously because he has to seek God for all the aspects of our relationship. God's also grown me in letting him lead us.
I really loved this post! :)
Thanks!
Wonderful. And the sight of Sean Connery never ceases to make my heart go "poompity-poompity"